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deleted_user
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I had a miscarriage about 8 months ago, I also have a 14 month old son, my question is: my hubby and I decided to try again, that's great but since there is a tradition in Hispanic cultures that you don't say anything after the 3 months should we then say anything to our families?

Keep in mind that my sil is finally pregnant after 8 years of marriage and everybody is excited about her pregnancy and we don't want to feel that I am stealing her thunder. And to also we are death scared that another mc will happend

What should we do? and how long are you'll going to wait for a second baby, should we also tell everybody? pls help.
RavensaraH
RavensaraH
Personally when i plan to try again and should i become pregnant i am not telling anyone until at least the 14 week mark. I didn't tell anyone with the baby i just lost (nearly 9 weeks) and in a way it was good because i also had nobody to tell i had lost it. I did however chose to tell some people, family/friends when i lost the baby, for support. But personally i wouldnt tell anyone until i had to.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, that's a question with a few variables... First off, it depends on when you get pregnant again. If you get pregnant soon, I would probably hold off until the initial excitement of your sister-in-law's pregnancy dies down. 3 months is probably a good time to wait, though, you're supposedly out of the woods at that point...

That's just my opinion, though...

I agree with Raven, though. My first two m/cs I didn't have to tell anyone except the guy who was my fiance, at the time... It was a lot better than this last miscarriage because more people knew and it was harder to forgive their ignorance and insensitivity... I know it sounds dumb, but I hardly even got 2 "I'm sorry"s out of all the people that knew. Everyone was just like, "Oh, that's too bad."
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think there is one answer for all people. I have friends who have waited to tell anyone until the 14th week. My husband and I have shared the news of all three pregnacies with our close friends and family. What we decided after the first miscarriage is that we needed the support of these people to get through our grief, so we continue to let them know what happens (good or bad.)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thank you lovely ladies; for all your help.
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