Miscarriage Support Group

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How do you stay strong??

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My names Kristina, had a miscarriage at 5 weeks on December 2 2006 and unfortunately lost another at 7 weeks 3 days on November 10th 2007, How do you deal with all of this??? I know I was early, but we wanted this BADLY!! Everyone kept saying "everything is fine as long as your levels keep rising." My levels were rising, but I went in for what would be the last bloodwork on Friday the 9th..they said if anything was wrong they would call on Saturday...why didnt they call??? me levels had to have been dropping...atleast a little!!!Today I had to deal with all of the phone calls..cancelling my Ob appointment for my 8 weeks scan..That stuff that was so much fun to do suddenly became so dreadful..I was in the ER twice once on the 6th and once on the 7th everything was fine!! what happened?!? the first felt like something was "wrong" with the baby this one, I had no idea until I got woken up at 6:00 because of the pains...I feel so empty, again...Why does everyone try to find happiness through this? I dont even want to look at losing my baby as a positive thing, so what if my baby was deformed...What if I couldnt care less?? them were my babies..Why do all of the people that dont know their baby daddies (i mean between 10 people) and people who throw them away?? Why do they get kids and I cant even give 1 to my love?!?! Sorry for the rant, but I think I have finally hit my point...
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I wish I could help you feel better. But I can't time will help but other than that, I'm not sure why these things happen to us. I just try to live one day at a time and know that God has a plan even if were not sure what it is. My prayers are with you. God bless
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I am so sorry for your losses. Here to talk if you need to.
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I really wish there was a magic pill we could all take to take away our pain. If you need to talk I am here. I am very sorry about your losses. I think DS will give you the support, I love this site!
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Thanks everyone for taking the time to read this..Im struggling with depression and PTSD and and anxiety dirorder so sometimes I just have to rant like this..I go to the doctor tomorrow and they will tell me if i need a D&C or not, Im still having all of the pains..2 days later, it still feels like im in the middle of it, doesnt seem right. So again thansk everyone for the support. Even though I could have chosen better words.
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I'm sorry for your losses.
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I'm feeling the same way. I am scheduled for a D&C tomorrow, as I had a "missed miscarriage." I should be 10 weeks along, but lost the baby about 1.5 weeks ago. I am feeling the same way... heartbroken but pissed off. I ate healthy, exercised, took my prenatals, never smoked, didn't eat deli meats, unpasturized meats... you name it. And I STILL lost the baby, whereas others don't take care of themselves and don't even want a baby, and have perfectly healthy children. Let's just say it... it sucks and is unfair. I hate it when people sugar-coat it and say," well... everything happens for a reason. God will give you a baby when He's ready." But I'm ready now, and I'm sinking. I feel your pain. Luckily, I have a wonderful husband who is has done and said nothing but the right things, and has managed to help me through this. Lean on who you can, but just let yourself feel it.
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Thanks ladies, I do not know where I would be if it weren't for the women on this site...especially since nobody I knows has had a miscarriage..and here I am having 2...Hard to talk to anyone about it, but its nice to get it out once in a while so I just wanted to thank you!
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i'm sorry for your losses i am in the process of miscarrying my second baby. its so painful i feel for you as you have lost two this is my first miscarriage and not sure if i can cope. i hope DS can get me through this. I'm so sorry
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Sometimes life just seems miserably, completely, and utterly unfair.

All I can think in some situations is to just make it through the day. And one day (it might be a long ways away from now), when I feeling a bit stronger, a bit steadier (from practice, if nothing else) I can think "how can I use this new part of who I am for good?" (to appreciate what I have more, to reach out to another in need, etc.)
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sorry to hear about your losses, i too have suffered a stillbirth last year, a miscarriage this year and have just found out im pregnant again, but have stared to have some spotting today, i too wish i knew how we could feel better, i just know this is the beggining of the end aagain, how can life be so unkind to us? after the loss of my 1st 2, its just something you learn to deal with, i do hope you star to heal soon, all my love poppy xx
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I am so sorry about your losses. I lost my son at 20 weeks. I know the pain your going through. I went through depression after I lost him. Please go to the doctor about your depression if you havent. I didn't right away and I hurt a lot of people that I love. If you need to talk to anyone im here.
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Sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how you feel. I felt cheated and said the same things about why people who throw their kids away, and things of that nature get to have kids, while I suffer with the loss of mine. But, I hope things will get better for you. Your babies are in heaven, and you'll never have to worry about if they're going to heaven, because they're there waiting on you. That's the thought that gives me comfort. I know you wanted these babies, and the fact they're in heaven, I'm not trying to make your loss seem minor. I just want you to know that I understand your point, and offer you a few words of comfort. I hope it helps. If you need to talk, I'm here.
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