
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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I know this question has been asked by other women so many times before but I need a refresher. there are four couples my husband and I are friends with who are pregnant right now and after having two miscarriages this year I'm having such a hard time with "being happy for them" what can I do to feel okay about all of this? any advice?
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I know this isn't good advice but I am avoiding my pregnant friends. I'm very happy for them and I'll have to face them soon, but right now I just can't.

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When I see them I try to focus on their face so I don't look at their belly since we were all due within a month of each other. We also do not bring up their preg.

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I'm going to keep an eye on the responses to your question, since I'm in the same boat. So far my plan has been to avoid them, so I'm glad to hear that others are feeling the same way! I feel like a I'm being a bad friend, but I just can't be around my pregnant friends right now.

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Itotally agree with what everyone is saying, i have my sister in laws sons birthday tommorrow and her friend who has a week old baby will be there i am freading it so much, will def be the tester to see how i really am coping. Everyone deals with things differently if you cant face your friends then dont hun xx

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This may sound crazy, but this is how I cope with it...Instead of being jealous of the pregnant women I see, I just think to myself that they could have gone through what I went through and then I am happy for them and I look at them as hope for my future. I am sure it is not true in most cases, though it does seem to be true of most of the people that I work with. I know most of them struggled with infert. or losses. Therefore, being around all of this gives me my new perspective on all pg. women. I hope this helps and does not just sound crazy.

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Be honest with them, let them know how you feel. My sister was pregnant with a child that was unexpected. Just before I lost my baby she was going on about how she wished it did not happen. It drove my nuts that I lost my baby and she got to keep hers. I simply just told her how I felt. We kep our distances for a while and when I heald enough to handle the situation it never botherd me as much. Now I love my nefue and I would not trade him for the word. Give it time you will be appy for them.

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like erinot said i avoid.my husband niece just had ababy thanksgiving and i was due in feb of 2008 .she did all the wrong things like drinking and smoking. and i didn't due any of that and has her baby and i don't so i just avoid her and people around me that are . yes i'm happy for the other but not my neice . i hope this helps

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not really advice I was the person who originally wrote this post and I just thinks its pretty comical that the day after I found out yet antoher good friend is expecting I find out that my brother and his wife are having a baby too. This has to be a bad dream. When will it happen for me.
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