You are not alone. It's been 11 days since having my son and this weekend was the first weekend I have been out of the house in daylight (other then to take my daughter to school and pick her up.) If I had to go to the store I would drive to the next town over (about 20 minutes away) and it would be at night! I haven't really seen any of my friends face to face yet except for one.

My stomach is still pooched out and I can't really fit back into my normal clothes yet so I don't want anyone to really see me. I am really sorry about your loss and I hope by coming to DS you will find somekind of strength. I don't know what I would have done if my dear friend didn't introduce me to this group.

just remember it is nothing you did to cause it.Get it over with sooner than later because it might get harder to go into public.Sorry for your loss.

I also had a surprise pg while on the pill. I was excited and just figured my pg would go as well as my other two had. Unfortunately 7 weeks 3 days into the pg I lost the baby. It was difficult to tell people but I found that most were sympathetic and having the moral support of my family helped tremendously. You'd be surprised how wonderful people could be. Sorry for your loss I know how awful you are feeling right now. Hugs, Angelique

I had a hard time with this as well. My husband worked for the cable company at the time - and they broadcast it on tv that we were expecting! So everyone knew! When I miscarried, I was devastated and I had no idea how to tell people. Word of mouth got around quickly... but there were still a few. My mom sent out an email to a lot of people. My boss told the people at work. But I had a few people ask me. I never knew how to deal - and I actually avoided people a lot. And eventually a lot of people figured it out when I didn't look pregnant and I didn't have a baby. I wish now i could have told people... I wish I could of said what happened. And that I did have a baby - she was just in heaven.

You shouldn't feel ashamed, you did nothing to cause it!

My husband sent out an e-mail right after I lost the baby with the request for no phone calls for a week. It worked very well. My bigger problem was that people who had passed on the good news forgot to pass on the bad news.

Since we told almost everyone by e-mail, I was amazed at how hard it was to actually say the words when I had to tell someone in person. It becomes so much more real when those words pass out of your mouth.

The sooner you get the news out there, the easier it will get for you. Plus you will find an unbelievable amount of sympathy and camaraderie.

I miscarried in August and I am still feeling like a failure, almost as if ive let everybody down. I know its not my fault but the feelings are there.
Its amazing how supportive friends, family and generally people you see day to day can be. Its nice for me to be able to tell those people when Im having a "bad day" and they are still expecting me to have bad days and the reassurance from them is comforting.
Unfortunately, it takes time (cliche i know) but once its all out in the open the sense of dread diminishes.
Hugs x x