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First I hope everyopne is doing well. It has been a while since I was online. I have been doing well except I think I have taken about six pregnancy tests in the last 10 months. My cycle is so irregular that I just kept hoping. I got to the point were I waited it out and last month was the first month I did not cry when it started. I thought I was doing good, then this month came. According to my cyle it could take up to six weeks for my period to start. THe last two weeks I have been nautious, quite tired and my breats have been a little tender but nothing major and then this weekend they became more tender and I am getting sharo pains through them every once in aheile that only last a few seconds. They also feel different if that makes any sense from the inside. THe signs by themselves I would ignore but with each passing day I gain a little more hope which is really starting to get on my neres becuase I am trying to convice myself I am not to rpetect myself which sounds silly, but I think can ony be understood by those who have lost a baby and have been trying for what seems like forever to get pregnant. Does anyone have any advice? Can your breats only be a little tender? I would aapreciate any advice. Thanks for listening. Andrea
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the only thing you can do is wait. have you gone to any fertility clinic, i know they are very helpful. if you are not pregnant did you know that when you ovulate your temp rises a little, and some women have a small amount of discharge. i hope that you are pregnant. the last time i was pregnant my breasts were a little sore, it depended on what i was wearing and what time it was. my breasts have never been tender if i wasn't pregnant. im not sure how to word that sorry. the only time my breasts were sore was when i was pregnant. i hope this helps, if you need to talk or vent im here
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before I got pregnant, I would blow up. Nothing like I was when I was pregnant. They hurt really bad when I was pregnant. Now I can't even tell when I am going to start.
I understand the hoping and waiting. but don't worry because that is stress your body doesn't need. I had never been pregnant before but the symptoms were so severe I knew before I missed a period.
Keep praying and it will happen.
I can't stand the way it seems my body toys with me.
joyce19974
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I hear ya, I have been trying to get pregnant again also. It can be real frustrating. I am here for you if you would like to chat.
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I've been hoping and praying too. Whenever I have a pg symptom I try not to pay attention to it. Even slightly tender boobs could be a sign of pg. But I would try and wait if you think you will get upset. If you can't wait take the test it will at least give you an answer even if it's not the one you want. Hugs Angelique
EllynHopes
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Hugs Andrea! There is nothing worst then trying again and getting a negative pregnacy test. It took eight long painful cycles for me to get pregnant for my first pregnancy after loss. Here's what I can tell you express yourself, like you are doing. Have you called your doctor as well? Your doctor may have advice on your irregular periods. Hugs! There is no better advice after a loss than a listening ear.
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If you think you are pregnant call the ob and get an HCG serum drawn.... I would hate to have to wait 6 weeks to see if your period comes.
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I think i ahve spent a small fortune on pregnancy tests in the last months too! i think all you can do is wait- iknow how frustrating it is espacially when you're getting all the signs. I know how hard it is not to gat your hopes up perhaps try to distract yourself but let me know what the outcome is
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I am so sorry this is happening to you, and I am praying for you. Really, hunny, all you can do is wait and pray. I know ever since my hubby and I started having sex againI have been hoping that I don't get a period and we're pregnant again.... But the doc said for us to wait for a while. I know it feels like forever... And I am praying for you. If you need anything! AND I DO MEAN ANYTHING!!!!! Let me know.
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I have not been in your shoes, I am barely dealing with my first pregnancy and miscarriage. I can however share what to me is a universal message about obtaining what we really want in life and how we approach it. This sounds cheesy but, making an effort to "re-train" the brain to focus on the end result and blocking the stress and negative, painful thoughts around it not happening may open the doors to be ready for your next pregnancy. When you feel stress, counter it with a positive affirmation about what you want as an outcome, and not what you don't want. Easy for me to say, I haven't been there. I had been however taking pregnancy tests all last year and this year hoping for my first pregnancy. I watched a documentary called "The Secret" and wrote an affirmation in MARCH 07 that read "I have 2 healthy and vivacious children conceived and given birth by my healthy body". I became pregnant for the first time ever in April (I'm 36). I conceived... My next step is to go full term with my next pregnancy. Don't lose hope and be happy for the wait. Maybe that's the message. Life will reveal it's purpose for the time it's taking to become pregnant again. I hope this helps. Positive energy and love to you.
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An embarrassing story that might help though. After all my m/cs, and completely giving up trying, we got the blessed surprise of my pregnancy with my son. Because with all my other lost pregnancies I had the hind sight of seeing the symptoms diminish over time. I became completely paranoid with tracking every symptom, every day. My breasts didn't hurt a bit (very unusual for me), so every time I went to the washroom, I would squeeze them so hard, trying to convince myself that they were tender (ugh, so embarrassing!). The point is that every pregnancy is different, don't get hung up on focusing on just one symptom. Your body may not react in a way that you're expecting. I hope this helps, I know how difficult emotionally TTC is.
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