I just lost my little girl on October 17th, so I understand where you are coming from it is very new to me and I'm still coming to terms with the reality that she's gone. I cry a lot, I feel sometimes that I am just falling apart and it feels like it may never get easier. But with time I'm sure it may make it easier to comprehend, but now it is just so overwhelming. I'm looking forward and also very nervous to getting pregnant again a little further down the road. I was over 40 weeks pregnant when I lost my Natalie but she was my second pregnancy. My first is my little boy who has just turned one. But since I have had two full term pregnancies (my children are 11 months apart), I don't know if they will okay me getting pregnant so soon. At my next doc appointment I would like to ask just to see. My son's pregnancy was great and he is completely healthy. My pregnancy with my daughter was also no problem until the day I went into labor and then we realized what had happened. They were not able to diagnose the reason why she died either, which I know is going to make me a very nervous mommy next time around. I believe things will get easier in time, this pain will never completely go away, but hopefully once we can accept the fact of what happened we can find some peace. You are not alone in your pain, I will be thinking of you. If you ever need to talk, just let me know, I am here.

Thank you so much! I don't feel so alone.

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my son last July at 32 weeks. The reason could never be found.
Please understand that the grieving process takes time. 4 weeks is nothing. I promise you that you will start to feel more normal again, and better again. But it might be a different kind of normal and better. Don't rush yourself. And you will have a healthy baby again. I am not pregnant again yet, but there are a lot of wonderful ladies on this site who now have beautiful healthy children after stillbirth. Hang in there. I am here if you ever want to talk.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my little girl on 27 August at 21 weeks and was told to try again as I had been really unlucky. Fortunately I pursued more checks and was recently diagnosed with an incompetent cervix. If I had tried again without this diagnosis I would have lost another baby. I don't know what happened to you when you lost your baby but my waters were leaking prior to going into labour and this is one of the signs. I don't want to scare you but just thought I would share my story to make sure your Doctors have ruled this out. I still feel very sad and cry alot but I'm starting to have more good days than bad, I think it will just take time. I hope you don't have this condition, good luck for the future x

I lost my baby girl 9/24/07, and it still hurts. I still have my moments where I breakdown. You just have to give yourself grieving time. I thought that it was a set back when I went back to work, and began living a "normal" life again and I started having increased crying spells and feeling bad. But, my therapist told me that it's all part of the process and that my working through the grief and not staying locked in the house is a good thing. I was told by women that have lost babies 20 something years ago that they still have breakdowns occassionally.
As far as the healthy baby, my OB told me that a m/c doesn't ruin your chances of having a successful pregnancy. He told me that I have a 78% chance of having a healthy baby with the next pregnancy. If it will help, start saying prayers to God for your next children now. I pray for my yet to be concieved children, and that if it is God's will that He allow them to stay here with me. I hope this helps. I'm here if you need to talk.

Thank you so much for all your thoughts. My OB did so many different tests on me and they all came back normal. I was concerned that I had an incompetent cervix but that was ruled out. The only thing was that my heart rate has always been high and during my pregnancy and now my blood pressure is elevated. So my OB put me on meds to lower both. She is not convinced that was the cause of the stillbirth but at least it is something that can be treated. I am so sorry for all of your stillbirths. I would not want this for my worst enemy. People have been very supportive but I think you can not understand it unless you have gone through it. Thanks again