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Having a D&C Tomorrow

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I am frightened about having another D&C. I felt so powerless and scared last time. Being wheeled all the way up to the theatre. My husband will be there thank goodness. At least afterwards it won't be long untill my body will be back to "normal". Then we can try for another Bubba. But getting PG could take a while. I can't believe I'm back here again. I never thought this would happen to me again. I wish my Mum was here. Shes just moved house and shes been so busy. I miss her. I would have been nearly 11 weeks by now. I am so frightened in early pregnancy. Always checking for blood and trying not to worry. I hope I don't have to do this ever again. Maybe I should just not try again, but getting PG again makes it so much easier to cope and carry on. There was no baby when I had a scan so possibly a baby never grew. In my head and my heart there was a real baby though. I used to lie in bed and imagine her surrounded by golden ribbons of light protecting her. I guess I can still give her a name as she was real to me, or maybe thats just crazy. I don't know.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Scondly, it's not crazy that you want to give her a name. I know a few women who didn't know the sex of the baby but "felt" it was a boy or girl. Go with your heart. There is nothing wrong with it.

I'm here if you need to talk.
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Sorry for your loss.Sending you hugs and hope things get better.
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sorry for your loss. and like erinot it's not crazy to name your baby i didn't know the sex of my baby but i thought and knew in my heart it was aboy and his name is Elijahso if you like name the baby ok you take care ok i'm here for ya
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I'm very sorry for your loss. I know what you're going through. I had a D&C in Aug. due to a missed miscarriage (baby stopped developing at 7 weeks, no heartbeat or anything, but carried until diagnosis at 10 weeks). It's a devastating loss. Take care of yourself as best you can. I will be thinking of you.
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It's not crazy to name your baby. I didn't know the sex of my baby, but I felt it was a girl. So I named her Zoie. It's helped me to move on, by naming her. I didn't until about 6 months after my m/c. I pray for your healing and that you will be able to conceive, carry and deliever a HEALTHY, Beautiful "Bubba".

Good luck & God bless
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I am so sorry for your loss x I named both of my babies and it really has helped me x You have to do what feels right for you x I did not know the sex of either of my babies so i used unisex names x If you have a strong feeling that the baby was a girl then give her a girls name x Follow your heart x x
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Thanks so much for your kind replies. I have decided to remember this "baby" as "Luciana". Thats what my six year old daughter wanted to call her. It's so nice that you understand. I'm so sorry for what you all had to go through to understand. Ignorance is bliss. Babies aren't meant to die.
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I am so sorry for the pain your going through. I never had a DC so I dont know about anything to do with it. I lost my lil one at 2 months and did not need one as she was expelled completely during the miscarriage
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