Jan 1 my husband and I suffered a miscarriage. We were 9 1/2 weeks along, had already seen a heartbeat, and everything was going well. I began light spotting on Dec 31, saw the doctor & was assured that everything was okay. On the morning of Jan 1 I began bleeding heavil. We went to the ER and I had a miscarriage - it was very painful and traumatic, which I'm sure you already know if you are a member of this support group. My question is this - when I had the miscarriage I passed the fetus while on the hospital bed. They threw it out with the sheets. It was never analyzed, I didn't have the option of keeping it so that we could bury it and grieve the loss. Is that normal?? I would have chosen to have the fetus analyzed to see why this happened, and of course chosen to keep our baby so that we could have buried it and had some closure. I guess I'm angry that these options were not presented. It was not just tissue and blood, it was a human being and I feel that they were really insensitive in disposing of it without giving us options. What was your experience like? Did the doctor discuss options with you and your partner? Also, this is our first miscarriage - how do we go about dealing with this? Does it ever get easier? Any input that you may have will be greatly appreciated. We are havinga really hard time. Also, any suggestions regarding closure since a funeral isn't an option? Thank you so much for listening.
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