i think that u do need to talk about it. i have personally found that talking or writing has really helped me get through. Charlie is ur little angel and u have every right to talk about him whenever you want to. if u dont feel like talking 2 friends or family you can always talk 2 people here. we all understand what you are going through and are here for u if u need us. it has been 5wks today since i lost grace, and not a day goes by where i havent thought of her. i have got a beautiful little memory box for Grace, where i put inside her pics, her blessing certificate, a little teddy i bought her, a cardigan my nan knitted her and i bought a lovely little notebook, where inside i wrote a letter to her, and i found some nice poems for her that i wrote in. every now and then i just write a little letter to her in the book. some people plant a tree, or have a little memory garden, which i think are beautiful ideas. i was considering getting a nice piece of jewellery with her name engraved on it, just havent found anything as precious as she is yet.
dont worry hun, u will never forget Charlie, coz hes ur baby and he will always be in ur heart x x x

In my opinion, the subject of miscarriage is hard on the husbands/fiances, just like it is to us. My husband and I just suffered a miscarriage and he is greiving, but in his own way. We did talk briefly about the situation, but he just doesn't know what to say or do. He knows I am hurting which makes it so much more difficult because he can't take my pain away...you know men, always wanting to be the protectors of the women they love. Personally, what has probably helped me he most is writing out my feelings. Sometimes I'm angry, sometimes I'm depressed or upset. But in writing letters to my unborn child, it allows me to "release" my anger, frustration and all the other emotions I am feeling. I write them over the holidays, on my due date, or just whenever I feel like I need to just state my opinions without anyone passing judgement. I guess in a way, it's my personal "closure" to what happened. You will never forget your loss and you shouldn't. If you ever want to talk, I'm here.

I think it is pretty normal for you boyfriend to have a hard time expressing his feelings and I know it may seem like he has moved on. I have had 3 MC in a year and each time my husband listened to me cry and held me right afterwards but then he was ready go move on. It helps so much to find someone that understands what you are going through. If you don't have someone i your life that can support you then come here to find support. If you ever need to talk, I'll be here...