I posted on here last week, about how to approach my best friend who found out she is pregnant just a few weeks ago. I had a miscarriage in September of last year and it is still really painful to think about. To make matters more awkward, I work with this person. So, I told her yesterday how I was feeling, that I couldn't be around her as much because it is still too painful for me and that even though I am happy for her, I am so sad for what I lost. Well, she basically told me that she is upset that I am not going to be there to support her right now. I told her I will do whatever I can without feeling like I am spiraling into severe depression, but she seemed so upset with me. I brought her a pregnancy book this morning as sort of a peace offering, but she still seems mad at me. Why do I feel like the bad person in this? She has known how I feel around pregnant people for a long time (she felt some of this lately before she got pregnant, since she was trying for a few months and understood the 'jealousy' but I don't think she realizes that it is PAINFUL for some people, especially those of that have lost a baby.). I dno't know what to do and the situation is so awkward since we work together. She said she is not talking to anyone else until she is past 3 months, but I can't be her only support system. I don't know what to do and on top of still being so sad, I feel like a terrible friend.
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