
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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I keep reading a lot of posts and people say things like to pray on it and look to God. I do not mean to offend anyone but how can you continue to have faith after something so horrible has happened to you. In the past five years my step father died of lung cancer he was 43, my uncle, also in his forties, died in a motorcycle accident. My other uncles girlfriend died, she was in her late thirties. My mom got colon cancer, she was 50 at the time( she is 5 years cancer free ) my father died, he was 59. I had a miscarriage Feb 2007. Our dog died August 2007 and then our son, Gavin, was born still at 23 weeks. So I have lost my faith. I wish I had faith for comfort but how can I believe in anything after all these horrible things have happened? I keep trying to figure out what I have done to deserve so much heartache. I just can not figure it out. Please do not take offense that is not my intention I just feel lost.
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I truly believe I will get my answers one day. Whether it be while I'm on this Earth or elsewhere. I also truly believe I am being tested. Though I've had alot on my plate in my lifetime, I'm holding on to the whole "God wouldn't give me more then I can handle.
Hang in there. It does seem unfair. I am by far from a very religious person, but I'm hoping that I'll get my answers in the end.
But I dont, so I am left with so many questions about why this happened, what I did, whether I could have prevented what happened and where Dylan is now etc
life is so cruel :(
God isn't obligated to bring me anything good. He does not owe me any good health, life, happiness or prosperity. I have faith simply with thankfulness that he has saved and forgiven me. God purpose is not to prevent our loved ones from dying or hurting.
Why be angry at God for all these terrible things when He is not the author of them? The world has been handed over to Satan for a time (which is right now). God will come at His preordained time and THEN cast Satan into hell forever. If you want to blame all the pain and disease on someone, BLAME Satan! He is the one who lies to us and loves to torment us.
God never promised us and easy, pleasant life here on earth. Faith is knowing that heaven is waiting. ...that God in the end and puts an end to pain and evil.
A friend loaned me a book shortly after my miscarraige that was meant to help me process grief through spirituality. I picked it up several times to read, and would get to the word God, remember that I was mad at him, and then put it right back down. I'm not angry with Him anymore- but I too have to wonder why this happens to those of us that want it so bad.
I keep turning to pastors and priests for answers but they keep telling me to have faith that my daughter is in heaven and is watching over me. It's hard to feel this way while you feel so empty and alone. But I think the only way we can get through this is to have faith that we will be reunited with our angels one day!
You've certainly had a terrible 5 years. My sympathies, and prayers, are with you.
The aim of the teachings is to show people how to live in a spiritually fulfilling way. Among other things, kindness & empathy towards others are highly encouraged. Having an attitude of compassion and humbleness is also encouraged.
Some things from the teachings of Buddha that have helped me are:
**The recognition that death is inevitable. According to one of the books I've been studying, if we are to mourn death then we should also mourn birth, because when one is born it means that one will one day have to die
**There is no such thing as death in the way that Western society describes it. When a person's physical body ceases to function, the essence of who they are simply moves on to the next spiritual plane. In Christianity this is called Heaven
**In regards to feeling pain, one of the books I have read advises that one should maintain a state of mindfulness or mindful awareness so that one is aware of the pain, but recognises that one is greater than the pain and therefore can rise above it.
As I've only just started studying Buddhism I'm far from fully understanding it; these are just some things that have helped me in my grieving for MJ and in my life in general so far. These things have helped me be more accepting of things that happen in life, and in my mind it is better to recognise that these things happen than blame them on some unseen, external force. (I'm not saying that higher forces don't exist, just that some things are naturally a part of life and not necessarily caused by deities/higher forces.)
I hope nothing I've said has come across in the wrong way and that it helps you in some way.
I hope also that I haven't sounded preachy. I just wanted to share my experience with you.
Good luck, I hope things get better for you soon.
**Love & blessings**