Miscarriage Support Group

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Early Miscarriage x2

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I am newly married. I found out 1 month after being married I was pregnant. Just as excited as I could be I waited a week, then called my OB for an appointment. Later that day I started stopping .... At 5 wks 5 days I miscarried. :*( heart broken and looking for answers I followed up with my OB and this is the answer I got. "it's nothing u did, nothing that could have been prevented. Do you have any questions ??? and goodbye" if I didn't already feel bad enough this just made it worse. I followed orders and waited one month to try again, in that time i found a NEW OB and was trying to clear my head. 1 month later ... pregnant again!!!! we are so excited this time, and i was feeling much differently. We are going to wait until christmas to tell everyone the good news, by then I will have had my first real appt and it will be wonderful. 6 weeks 1 day i started spotting again. Miscarried within the next 2 days. My husband is trying so hard to comfort me. Nothing helps and no one can say anything to me to make me feel any better. No one will answer my questions, and when I called the OB they said no necessary testing should be done until after the 3rd miscarry. WHAT?? I do'nt know if i can emotionally handle another miscarriage.

I am unsure of what to do. Try again or wait. What are the chances that I will have to go through dealing with another miscarriage. Why are all these undeserving people around me getting pregnant. Why is it that every where I turn my head is a new baby, or a pregnant mother looking just as happy as they can be. My husband and I did everything the way were should .... high school ,college, engagement, bought a house, marriage ... NOW we are ready for a baby, .... I guess I just thought it would be so easy. Just something that you do

any advice ?????
:*(
deleted_user
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I am so sorry for your losses. After 2 miscarriages it is time to start testing to figure out if there is a preventable cause. I have had hormonal testing (thyroid, prolactin), clotting tests, chromosonal testing for me and my husband, and a hysteroscopy when all of those tests came back normal. I would love to talk if you have any questions.
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Be your own advocate is all I can tell you. I know it will be hard (because it was for me) but you should pick up this book called "Preventing Miscarriage: The Good News." It has a lot of good information in it and may give you some clues as to what specific questions to ask or specific tests to reques. That's what it did for me and then I went to my doctor and said I want this test to check for this potential cause because I've noticed this. Despite what the doctor thinks, he or she does work for you and should be doing anything you ask them to do.
The only thing I would suggest is ordering the book online it would probably be a little easier on you.
Hope this helps.
deleted_user
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I asked for some of the early tests after the second one. Sometimes you just have to be forcefull. Here's a list of tests. http://www.pregnancyloss.info/diagnosing_the_problem.htm. I did some of the early testing. They are mostly blood tests, so there should be no reason the OB would be unwilling to do those. I go back to see my OB in about a 1.5 months. I'm going to ask for the Progesterone Monitoring and probably the Exposure ones. I don't think they will turn up anything but at least they are getting done. This is a terrible way to think, but if I get preggo again and lose that one, at least those early ones are done and we can quickly move on the more extensive and expensive ones.

My advice would also be to ask the doctor to put you on Progesterone once you get pregnant again. My OB is going to do that. We don't suspect that I have a Progesterone problem, but it won't hurt and it could help. It makes me feel good to know that I'm doing something and not just sitting around waiting for disaster to happen again.
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I am so sorry for your losses! I have had two also and know what a toll it takes. I feel many of those emotions too.

EmilyF is right. You deserve to be evaluated more thoroughly after two losses. She has a good list to start with.

Besides that you deserve the time and care you need to heal physically and emotionally. The second time around is different. Don't rush into anything until you are sure you can deal with all the possible outcomes. Take care of yourself. I will be thinking of you.
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I know someone who has a very similar story to you, even down to the series of life events - but in the end, nothing in this life is certain, even if you do all the 'right' things. My advice about trying for another child - wouldn't you rather have another angel baby than no more babies at all?
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I'm so sorry for your losses x I to have had 2 miscarriages and have been told the same about not doing any teats until i have had 3. I always thought it would be easy to but i guess i was wrong. I to am trying to decide if i can emotionally cope with another miscarriage if it happens. When i joined this site i was a total mess but with the help and support of everyone here i have finally started to accept that it was not my fault no matter how much i blamed myself and my usless body. I have had several Hysteroscopys and laproscopys for other reasons and they have all come back normal. Never give up on your dream to have a baby x x You have to angels watching over you x
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I had one m/c at 12 weeks and a chemical pregnancy 2 months later. My doc said the same thing... there was no need for further testing. I wasn't satisfied and needed to know either way if something was wrong. So, I scheduled an appointment at the RE. I am soooo glad we went. We ended up identifying issues and have found that we have prevented a lot of wasted time and heart ache. I am very sorry for your losses. I don't think it could hurt either way. Just make sure you tell the RE that you have been trying for over a year with no success and that should qualify you for testing. I think peace of mind is very helpful when trying to get pregnant.
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i am sorry for ur loss i made my doc test after 1 m/c so maybe just talk to ur ob they may take some tests. also waiting 6 months may give u a better chance of having a healthy child. i will keep u in my prayers.
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You know what! I have such an issue with ob's doctors! My feeling if you still saved your baby or remains from your misscarriage, INSIST they test...because yes Your emotions DO PAY THE CONSIQUENCE! You pay these people enough money that they should listen to YOU!! Gut instict tells you all you need to know sometimes! Write me if you need to talk..
Natasha
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I am so sorry and I feel your pain. I just suffered my 2nd miscarriage since March. I am 36 so the dr did recommend going to see a specialist. But they did tell me they probably won't find anything wrong. We'll see in the meantime I am feeling very cared for. If you don't need a referral I would see and RE anyway. Even if they don't find anything at least you will know you did everything in your power. Hugs Angelique
Faith75
Faith75
I lost two through m/c's and they tested me for anticardiolipins, just a word of advice but perhaps have them to do that test on you. Once I found out I had anticardiolipins, I was immeditately put on hormones ( to make my uterus "puffy") and 81mg of baby asprian. I am now blessed with a little boy who is now 31 months old. Best of wishes on concieving a baby! ~shelly&jt~
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