
Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.

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5 weeks ago my beautiful son Dylan was stillborn after 25 weeks pregnancy and I am finding it so hard to come to terms with.
He died as a result of my diabetes, and I can't help feeling that it was my fault and that I let him down.
Over the past 2 weeks, the feelings of helplessness, worthlessness and self loathing keep taking over more and more and I find it so hard to get through each day.
I have also split up with Dylan's Dad, and have guilt associated with our break up.
I feel like my life has ground to a halt, and I just can't see my future or how this is going to get easier.
I miss him so much, and wish I had the chance to get to know him - although I did hold him and have a photo.
I know that it is common to feel guilt, and even though I know that deep down there is nothing that I could have done, I can't help beating myself up over it and wishing things were different.
Please can anyone who has been through a similar experience, share their stories with me and tell me if it really does start to get easier with time and what sort of timescale that was?
Thanks
Bobby xx
He died as a result of my diabetes, and I can't help feeling that it was my fault and that I let him down.
Over the past 2 weeks, the feelings of helplessness, worthlessness and self loathing keep taking over more and more and I find it so hard to get through each day.
I have also split up with Dylan's Dad, and have guilt associated with our break up.
I feel like my life has ground to a halt, and I just can't see my future or how this is going to get easier.
I miss him so much, and wish I had the chance to get to know him - although I did hold him and have a photo.
I know that it is common to feel guilt, and even though I know that deep down there is nothing that I could have done, I can't help beating myself up over it and wishing things were different.
Please can anyone who has been through a similar experience, share their stories with me and tell me if it really does start to get easier with time and what sort of timescale that was?
Thanks
Bobby xx
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I feel like I'm going crazy, as I go through so many emotions - guilt, anger, hurt and the biggest sense of loss and emptiness.
I want to know why this happened, whether there was anything I could do, whether he somehow holds me responsible. I have so many questions that nobody can answer :(
It really helps to read these messages, as only someone who is going through or has gone through the same can ever truly understand how this feels.
It just feels like the world is such a cruel place, nobody should ever have to experience this kind of pain.
I don't really sleep much atm, but when I do I cry myself to sleep because I can't bear the thought of waking up to another day feeling like this.
It's just so hard :(
I find it hugely comforting to know that I am not alone in my grief, and that my feelings of guilt and helplessness are a normal part of the process.
I am feeling a little better today, after 2 very bad weeks and the messages I have received have played a significant part in that.
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Thanks again
B xx
I remember the first week was so hard I think I cried the whole time I was awake (which was most of the time). People would tell me that they would look at me and feel my pain. And of course everyday I STILL cry, but I don't feel as guilty enjoying a meal or laughing at a joke.
Being mothers I know our pain is never going to leave us, but I have faith that we will eventually find a place of peace and comfort.