Miscarriage Support Group

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Does it ever feel like...

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the amount of pregnant women and babies around us doubles after we've had a loss?

Ugh... My husband came home last night and told me our best friends announced they are having a baby. They were avoiding us (and we couldn't figure out why) because they were worried it would upset us. The sad thing is--I WAS so upset. I should have been happy for them. I just lost it--all those feelings that had started to settle down (sadness, anger, frustration, helplessness, etc) just bubbled right back up. My sister-in-law just had a baby, my sister is due in April and now our best friend??? It sometimes feels like too much. Lately it seems everywhere I go someone is pregnant, announcing a pregnancy or has a baby. I'm sure it's me and I'm just so much more aware but geez!!! I just needed to spill a little...
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I 've noticed this also.
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I noticed that too; early on in the midst of everything. HOwever, I try not to pay it much attention. I've found it easy to be happy for others, because I'd never want anyone I know to experience the pain my husband and I are experiencing. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, not even my worst enemy. What has gotten me through is all of the prayer of family and friends. I'm less jealous and more wishing that I was still pregnant, but I know my baby is safe, happy, and healthy in heaven, she's waiting on my husband and I to get there. Having her there has made me want to live a better life so that I can get into heaven and be with her again.
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I went to the hospital and had a D&C after i was discharched we went to mejier i opened the truch door and the first thing i saw was a woman that was 8 months PG the only thing i could do was cry i hope this gets easier to deal wsith
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I actually just thought the very same thing about two days ago. I had a D & C on Oct 9th and it just seems that everywhere I turn there are happy women with bulging bellies! I know that it is nothing more than my own heartache and jealousy, but I never noticed pregnant women before now. I also have a close friend that is due the same week I was and her pregnancy is going very smoothly. While I am very happy for her, it is hard to be around her since our "babies at the same time" discussions have come to a screeching halt. It is hard to imagine what "might have been". I think it is all part of grieving and recovering and is perfectly normal.
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I hope it didn't sound like I "wished" what has happened to us on anyone else--of course not. I am happy for them--it's just still pretty painful for me--all at the same time. (if that even makes sense) I like to say I'm envious not jealous. Just wishing it were me still carrying Emily. :( And it's nice to know it's not just me who can spot a pregnant woman a mile away...
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Yes, I've noticed the same thing. After I lost my first pregnancy a year ago, two co-workers of mine announced their wives were pregnant. I lost my second pregnancy Oct. 19, and I just found out that my former boss is pregnant with her second.
Nobody at my current office knows that I was even pregnant, but all my much younger co-workers keep asking when my husband and I are going to start having kids. That's a fun discussion to have right now!
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Tell me about it... My sister-in-law decided she wanted to start trying after I had become pregnant, and I just lost my baby. All she can talk about is how she "feels pregnant" and that this is her month. It's supposed to be my time, darn it! She is inconsiderate enough that the morning I lost my baby, all she could talk about is how her breasts hurt, and she's sure she's pregnant... I've never wanted to smack anyone so badly in my life!
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Yes, I am sure this is true. Perhaps we just are more in tune with these things after a loss? I totally get where u r coming from feeling upset at the birth announcement - my brother & sister-in-law announced they were expecting a few weeks after my daughter was stillborn. They waited out of respect for us, but I was so jealous all I could do was cry. I know it was probably the 'wrong' way to feel, but that was just my reaction. It will never be easy, but it will get easier. Hugs for you.
Dee.
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I CAN REALLY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU ARE FEELING. I still have up and down moments..I can say one thing I have one son and he is now in college. His growing up went so fast..Try and enjoy all the time you can with your boy, I know its hard when your trying to plan another baby ..But wow time flies and now I want to go back and enjoy him again. Stay strong sweety, and those feelings well they are what they are if you let them take you over. Any time you want to vent we are here for you.
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Yup, I have noticed this. Basically everyone I know is pregnant. I hear about it on a daily basis. Someone new finding out or giving birth. It's unbelievable.
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I know how you fill there is 4 of us that were due from Jan. - -March, now after my miscarriage I have been avoiding them by not going to church or shopping at the store that they work at. I know I will will have to face it soon but right now it just makes it easier.
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I never really noticed them before, but now I sure do. I find myself really mad if I see them in bars. I'm not sure if I just see them as ignorant about the little life they carry, or if it's jealously
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Yes. I just want to cry. It's too much for me to handle right now
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It seems like the whole world is pregnant except for me! I passed 15 pregnanct women on the way to the subway together (I should probably stop counting).
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Trust me, you are definitely not alone. I had my second m/c on 10/03/07 and everyone in my life seems to be pregnant. My sister-in-law just had her baby 2 days ago, my cousin is due in January, etc. I was so excited to go to the hospital and meet my niece, but at the same time, I was frustrated, jealous, angry and hurt. Don't get me wrong, I am so happy for my sis, but at the same time, I wonder "why not me".
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