I had a miscarriage the day after Christmas, about two months ago. I found out my baby had no heartbeat at 7 weeks, but didn't miscarry (naturally) until 4 weeks later. I had only told a few very close friends and family I was pregnant, thus only those few knew I miscarried. Now this month, 6 of my good friends just found out they are expecting and while I am so happy for them its hurts so much to sit there and listen to their stories because it reminds me of how sad my experience was. So now I am at the point where I wonder if I should tell these friends about the miscarriage so they will understand how I am feeling (aka if I act quieter, etc.) and so that this dark secret inside of me is gone. It is such a huge weight to carry. I was handing it ok for the first month but seem to be doing much worse as I hear of more and more friends who are pregnant. The "Why Me?" questions comes into play alot...Then the guilt starts about not being outwardly as happy for them as I know I should be. My question is, should I tell people so they will know why I may be acting different or keep it a secret and hope I will start to feel better soon? Please give me advice on your experience...
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