Miscarriage Support Group
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I have off the entire week off, and went up to NY this past weekend for a great weekend with my family, I was going to stay the entire week, but cut my trip short.
Well, I came home yesterday b/c we've been doing basal temperature and charting and all that stupid stuff and yesterday was supposed to be "the day". And nothing happened. I come home when I could have been enjoying myself in NY and-------no BD on my most fertile day or even leading up to it. He didn't even hug or kiss me when I came in the door or ask how my trip was. Or even tell me he loved me and missed me.
He said he wanted to try. He still said that last night. But none of the BD was done. We only BD on average 4X a month, and it frustrates me because you are most fertile for 3 months after a D&C (which I had for the miscarriage), and well I'm coming up on my 3 month time frame. And any OB-GYN is going to look at my chart and just tell me to have sex more often before we get concerned.
So, I got a little frustrated when it was obvious his only agenda was falling asleep last night. I tried to talk to him about our lack of BD'ing, but he doesn't see it as a problem This is not a new problem either. I've always wanted more BD'ing than him. On average, we only BD 4X a month!
I'm seriously depressed. Cried all night. I don't get it. I cut my trip short to just come home and have that conversation since the reason why I came home was so we could BD, and then it doesn't happen and I just feel like crap.
I'm depressed. I'm anxious. I'm scared. I don't like where this is going.
I don't know what to do! Any thoughts or suggestions ladies? Any one else been through this?
I have off the entire week off, and went up to NY this past weekend for a great weekend with my family, I was going to stay the entire week, but cut my trip short.
Well, I came home yesterday b/c we've been doing basal temperature and charting and all that stupid stuff and yesterday was supposed to be "the day". And nothing happened. I come home when I could have been enjoying myself in NY and-------no BD on my most fertile day or even leading up to it. He didn't even hug or kiss me when I came in the door or ask how my trip was. Or even tell me he loved me and missed me.
He said he wanted to try. He still said that last night. But none of the BD was done. We only BD on average 4X a month, and it frustrates me because you are most fertile for 3 months after a D&C (which I had for the miscarriage), and well I'm coming up on my 3 month time frame. And any OB-GYN is going to look at my chart and just tell me to have sex more often before we get concerned.
So, I got a little frustrated when it was obvious his only agenda was falling asleep last night. I tried to talk to him about our lack of BD'ing, but he doesn't see it as a problem This is not a new problem either. I've always wanted more BD'ing than him. On average, we only BD 4X a month!
I'm seriously depressed. Cried all night. I don't get it. I cut my trip short to just come home and have that conversation since the reason why I came home was so we could BD, and then it doesn't happen and I just feel like crap.
I'm depressed. I'm anxious. I'm scared. I don't like where this is going.
I don't know what to do! Any thoughts or suggestions ladies? Any one else been through this?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
When we first started trying again, we had a really bad cycle. We started doing it just before when I expected to ovulate, but I ovulated so late (day 21) that it got very mechanical, then failed altogether. Nine straight days of high-stakes trying will do that (we are normally more on a schedule similar to yours). All the "fun stuff" in the world couldn't overcome the pressure and the timing.
We had to really talk about it. It wasn't easy or fun. All blame had to be set aside so we could move forward together.
Since that awful experience, we've taken some of the pressure off trying. Definitely, it helps to go on dates and spend non-babymaking time together. Plus we are now targeting our trying more effectively, not doing it until I get a positive ovulation test.
Of course, outside of fertile time, we go on with our normal activity.
I know how hard it is, but once you've done all you can do, set it aside and remember everything else in your life. It took me months to get to that point. But even though I still want a baby more than anything, it isn't consuming me anymore. I feel closer to peace now.
I wish you the very best and hope it all comes together for you soon. Take care and good luck!