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Dealing with other women who are pregnant

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I had a miscarriage last week and I am having a really hard time with it. One of the hardest things at the current moment is dealing with other women who are pregnant and babies. My sister is 4 weeks ahead of where I should be in my pregnancy. We were so excited to go through pregnancy together and then have children the same age. Now I can hardly stand to be around her. It hurts to bad. I can't imagine what it will be like when she actually has the baby. I also can't handle being around babies. I hate that something that used to bring me such joy now makes me so sad. Also, it drives me CRAZY when I hear pregnant women complain about being pregnant. I would die to have morning sickness and backaches and everthing else that comes along with pregnancy. I wish they would be more grateful that they are pregnant. I know it's my thing to deal with and I try to not let it bother me but I'm not being very successful at it. Any advice?
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I think you just have to grieve before you can feel better about other women being pregnant. Try not to be hard on yourself for not feeling happy for them. The day will come when your feelings may be different, but for now you are allowed to be mad, hurt, sad, jealous, angry, whatever you feel is ok.
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I feel the same way often. You have to let yourself feel your pain before you can accept it.
In time you will want to be with babies again. The pregnant woman thing is always hard for me and always has been. I am mourning the loss of not only my children, but the state of pregnancy. I will never feel a child flutter around inside of me. I will never know what it feels like to have them kick or hiccup. I will never watch my child grow within my womb. I will never have a child that comes from my DH and I. I will never get feet so swollen my shoes don't fit or to wear tacky maternity clothes. I will never have people ask to touch my tummy. I will never get to be pregnant again.
These are all things that need to be mourned, just like the loss of your baby. Respect those feelings, honor them, feel them and in time I hope you are feeling stronger.
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It takes time...I know exactly how you feel...Me and my co-worker both found out we were pregnant at the same time...she was 2 weeks ahead of me...so it drives me crazy to be around her now....And I get so mad when I hear other girls who find out they are pregnant say I dont want it give me an abortion or the ones that have their kids and neglect them..........I feel what your going through and i too hope i get better soon...you are in my prayers...:)
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I'm still trying to accept things myself. It's really tough though. I think on the outside I try to be tough but in the inside my heart breaks! It's still so fresh for me.
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