Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Yesterday over dinner at Red Lobster, Garrick (hubby) told me that Jon's wife (groomsman/med school friend) is pregnant again. This is their 5th (their 2nd since being in med school). I think my eyes got real big, then I looked down, and got quiet and Garrick asked me if I was sad? No. Disappointed? No. He said it was okay to feel sad and disappointed because he was feeling that when he was told.
I told him I was just tired of hearing about everyone else's pregnancies. Not that I want anything bad to happen to them--heaven forbid anyone I know have to go through what I had to. It's a horrible experience.
I have 4 coworkers, 1 drug rep who details us pretty fequently, 3 friends, and 1 cousin who are all currently pregnant, and having a healthy pregnancy. It just gets pretty rough hearing about it and getting reminded.
I would have been 18 weeks this Sat.
I feel like a horrible person. I avoid my coworkers especially during lunch. Everytime the drug rep comes in she has her ultrasound pics. I've had to see pics of other drug reps newborns. I don't take my friends calls--I let my voicemail pick up, and I don't call my friends back immediately when they call--I have to prepare myself to feel disappointed when I get off the phone with them and sometimes it takes 2 or 3 days for me to call them back. I was supposed to throw one a baby shower 3 weeks ago, but my mom graciously took over it for me. And I don't think I could bear to go to the other baby showers right now.
I just want this feeling to go away. I want the crying to stop. I want a positive home pregnancy test with the guarentee of a healthy baby--and that won't happen. I was high risk to begin with because of my high blood pressure and now I'll be even more high risk. I told Garrick last night that I feel cheated because even if we do get pregnant I won't be able to enjoy the pregnancy because I'll be worried the entire time because there is no gaurentee.
How do you deal with other people's pregnancies????
I told him I was just tired of hearing about everyone else's pregnancies. Not that I want anything bad to happen to them--heaven forbid anyone I know have to go through what I had to. It's a horrible experience.
I have 4 coworkers, 1 drug rep who details us pretty fequently, 3 friends, and 1 cousin who are all currently pregnant, and having a healthy pregnancy. It just gets pretty rough hearing about it and getting reminded.
I would have been 18 weeks this Sat.
I feel like a horrible person. I avoid my coworkers especially during lunch. Everytime the drug rep comes in she has her ultrasound pics. I've had to see pics of other drug reps newborns. I don't take my friends calls--I let my voicemail pick up, and I don't call my friends back immediately when they call--I have to prepare myself to feel disappointed when I get off the phone with them and sometimes it takes 2 or 3 days for me to call them back. I was supposed to throw one a baby shower 3 weeks ago, but my mom graciously took over it for me. And I don't think I could bear to go to the other baby showers right now.
I just want this feeling to go away. I want the crying to stop. I want a positive home pregnancy test with the guarentee of a healthy baby--and that won't happen. I was high risk to begin with because of my high blood pressure and now I'll be even more high risk. I told Garrick last night that I feel cheated because even if we do get pregnant I won't be able to enjoy the pregnancy because I'll be worried the entire time because there is no gaurentee.
How do you deal with other people's pregnancies????
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I just got back from Wal-mart and I was standing in line I saw a very round and pregnant woman getting a pedicure--the pain swept in without warning and it was like my heart was breaking all over again. I thought I was beginning to feel better about everything that happened, but I guess Im not as strong as I had hoped. Everywhere I look there are pregnant women-its funny-like when you get a car you never noticed anyone else having the same car until you start to drive around. Then all you see is your car. Like a pregnancy-you generally dont "notice" as often until you had someting that was snached away without warning--then everyone becomes pregnant. I wish I had words of wisdom to offer, but im in the same boat. I just try to act how I want to act, if you dont want to sit with them at lunch--dont. Be yourself--let yourself be sad if you need to be sad. Hopefully for all of us--time will help things be a little less scary.
i would have been starting maternity leave this week with my 1st baby and it seems to be making it hard to be happy at work, i'd also be 13weeks with my 2nd and would have just seen the midwife to hear heartbeat.
i cant wait to get pregnant again, i loved the feeling it gave me, but i dont think i will be able to get really excited or buy things or anything until i'm very far along, maybe even only once it is born.
I don't have any wisdom for dealing with your friends and family other than remembering that you are entitled to your feelings no matter what they are.
About feeling cheated: There is a loss of innocence after a miscarriage. We now know it CAN happen to us! I wish there was a way to go back, but we can only go forward. I have also worried that, if I'm able to get pregnant again, I won't enjoy it. Maybe I will be anxious, but there can and will be happy moments too.
I will be thinking of you. Take care.
It's a very hard thing to be happy for someone when you are in such pain. In the last few days coming on here it has really helped. It helps so much to talk to those that understand and are feeling the way you feel.
Just take it one day at a time. Thats what I have been doing. Just take each day slowly. xx Melissa