I had a mc in May and another one in December. I am emotionally getting better, and would like to try again soon, but we are in a financial crisis right now. We cannot afford to pay all our bills and are considering starting a debt management plan to deal with our debts. As much as I want another baby, I don't feel right about trying again now because I don't feel we can financially do it yet. If we wait until things are totaly cleared up financially, it will be at least 3-4 years. Our daughter will be 3 in October. I don't want to wait that long. I am also struggling with anger toward my husband because the debt is 99% from him. I was nearly debt free when we met, but he came to our relationship with $40K in credit card debt. We have paid it down some, but it is such a mess. I don't want to be intimate with him because 1) I don't want to get pregnant (even though I'm on the pill) and 2) I am angry that he put us in this mess. I don't bring it up though because it just gets him upset and solves nothing. So, I've closed myself off from him. I didn't mean to, but I have. I don't want this to affect our relationship, but obviously it already is. I have decided to teach summer school and tutor during my summer break so that I can earn some more money this summer. I am looking at our budget and spending and trying to find any and every area where we can save money to get us out of this mess sooner. Even this is frustrating though because I am willing to be way more radical with cuts than my husband is. I am willing to cancel our cable for a while and I've even come so far as to consider selling one of our cars, which would leave us with only 1 vehicle. I don't know that he would go for it. I could keep going, but you get the picture. I am sorry to be negative, but I am so frustrated, stressed, and down right now...I don't know what to do!
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