Hello. I miscarried about 5 months ago. When the obgyn told me there was no longer a heartbeat I was given 2 choices, D&C at the hospital or Methotrexate inserted vaginally & passed at home. I opted for the pass at home method. The obgyn recommended I "pass" while on the toilet and to simply flush. I decided I could not flush. I passed and saved the "contents". I would not do this again-it was scary and confusing. I panicked and froze what I passed because I did not know what to do at that point. I was about 3 months away from purchasing my first house and wanted to bury it where I would know I would permanatly be. When I finally moved in I kept putting it off. On the very day I was supposed to deliver I watched an episode of "Hoarders" there was a lady who basically did what I did and it really affected her because she kept it in there for 8 years. I was stunned and upset. I knew if I didn't get up and immediatly do something I might never get around to it. We went to the store and bought a beautiful flowering bush called a Mexican Bird of Paradise and planted it on top of my baby. Now that it's done I do feel much better. I did wig out a little, I was scared the bush would die. But it did not and has since had 3 blooms :) I would very much like to know if anyone else can share if they have a burial story or similar experience with passing at home? I have recently just started talking about this, I hid it at work and from friends that weren't aware I was even pregnant. I was 4 months when the heartbeat stopped and have since learned it may be from RA. I am not diagnosed yet but tested positive for elevated levels. I feel better having an answer. When I was told " these things just happen" that really bugged me. Knowing why helped. I had an iud in and it had failed. The doctor removed it sucessfully. I am now back on regular birthcontrol. So-I'm just wondering how others who kept and buried the remains did it? I wanted to plant something with her to produce life where I could not. That was my basic thinking and I smile everytime I look at those blooms :)
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