Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
I lost my first baby in the second trimester. I had a healthy girl a year later. 20 months later I had twins, a boy and a girl. They were in the nicu for a month due to prematurity, but now they are home and thriving. I feel like it's harder for me to bond with them, though. I don't know if it's because I was so scared of losing them when they were in the nicu, or if I'm just overwhelmed. I have a hard time every year around Novemeber. My son would have been born on my birthday, and so it's hard for me to feel happy...I find myself thinking about how old he would've been now. I think about how my son could've had a brother. It's been over 4 years and I can't believe I still have this secret grief. I don't know who to talk to. I know I am so blessed to have my children now. And yet I'm still sad that I never got to meet my first son. I want to be closer to my twins, and I think my grief is holding me back. And I don't know what to do with this grief, it feel like it just keeps going, and it's been so long, and I wish I could just have peace with it. Has anyone else experienced something similar?
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i think you should talk to god.ask him to keep your little girl safe and thank him for your wonderful children you have now.iv'e had 2 mc i wasn't far along 4-5 but i still asked him to keep them safe and thanked him for blessiong me with my beautiful boy. it worked for me . maybe you should try it.
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Maybe if you think the first baby wasn't ready to meet you at that time but now came back to you through one of your three kids that will help you build a bond and meet the child you never got to meet.
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