I had someone ask me how I was feeling and congratulate me the same day we lost Nicholas. This was in an email mind you, so it wasn't as hard as a face to face would have been.

I'm still sore and swollen from having my son. Someone at Disney asked if I was expecting again. I just replied "no, I'm just fluffy." Though I wanted to pour my story out to her. It was pretty tough.

I see women like ready to burst and i dont say anything unless they give me a signal. You never know what someone is going through I mean you cant be too careful. i am surprised someone who just lost a baby said that too, you would think they would be more sensative but like I said in your jornal maybe it was meant to be she just needed to know someone else had lost to... who knows love ya!

7 weeks after I lost my baby my mom passed away. At the wake a distant cousin came over to me and patted my belly saying "no one told me you were expecting". I almost fell over I didn't know what to say so I just nodded my head no and tried not to cry. She didn't know I was pg or that I lost the baby. I was so sad because I should have still been pregnant. In my case I think it was the shirt I was wearing it kind of looked like it could be like I was hiding an early pg. I think you handled it well. Sometimes I think people sense things rather than actually think you look pg. Hugs, ANgelique

I love the "fluffy" comment! I think that's what I'll have to use from now on. Now I just have to get an answer for all those people who keep asking why I'm not pregnant yet :(

a couple of weeks after my m/c a lady that i had never met before (but she was at my hubby's grandparents house when she said this) told me that i should start having kids. i told her "i'm trying but i just lost one a few weeks ago so we can't start trying again so soon." i've never liked it when people told me that i should start having kids, and having just lost one made it a ton worse.

I had a co-worker hear through the rumor mill that I was pregnant, but somehow the miscarriage never made it to her. When she asked me about it 3 weeks after the miscarriage, I just told her "I was". The odd thing is that I know this woman has been through several miscarriages and has no biological children so I was expecting a supportive response... nope! Her response was that I didn't want my two kids that close anyhow. My son was almost 2 at the time, the kids would have been 2.5 years apart! Plus even if she doesn't know my son's age, she doesn't have the right to determine family planning for other people!

I agree with you. After this experience and listening to everyone's stories here, I will never ask about another person's desire to have children. I'm really getting sick of people (who don't know) telling me to have another one.