I didn't get to have the chance. I lost one of my babys at 12 weeks, had him at home and had to take him back to the doc's office for testing. I hope you figure out what will be best for you. Good luck.

I'm sorry you lost your baby.

I put some of my baby's ashes in a metal "urn" heart and had his initials engraved on it. There were a lot of ashes left, however, so we scattered some at a beautiful lake near where I grew up and we're going to bury some with my husband's grandfather when we go to for a visit. We also have a memories box for our baby with pictures (they took pictures of him at the hospital) and a toy we'd bought him and his birth & death certificate. I would wait on it for a while until you know what you want to do. There's no rush. You can plant his ashes in a potted plant or scatter them at sea, or do whatever you think he'd like. There's a lot you can do with ashes, actually. You can even wear some of them in a special necklace. When you're ready, you can look online for different things to do.

I still have my daughter's ashes. We out them in a urn and have a picture of my husband and I holding her right next to them. She sits on our dresser (very tall) and we can say hello to her every morning! I find it comforting to have her home with me. I guess it is the only way my whole family can be together on this earth. I hope this helps!

I had Olivya Faith cremated , I didnt want to but I had to! I have her ashes Here with me she has a special Angel that holds her! I wasnt sure how I would feel but now I am glad that I have them, In a way I feel Like she is closer to me!

I have Karena's ashes. They are in angel urn. I think you've probably seen the picture of it on my profile. I have a curio cabinet and I have it in there. I find peace that she is at home with us.

I have my son's in a small urn. I never got pictures of my son and yesterday my OB asked me if I got pictures from the hospital. Come to find out, for some reason the hospital NEVER took pictures so I have nothing...except for him. I was mad at myself for not thinking of taking pictures, mad at the hospital. It's just been one big emotional roller coaster.

Why WOULD you think to take pictures? A grief counselor came in and suggested that we take pictures (which, at the time, I thought was very weird). It's not something most people would think of to do. I agree with you that the hospital who didn't suggest it sucks, though. Be mad at THEM all you want! But please don't be mad at yourself. You're going through enough right now.

I buried my son's ashes in the family plot. It was a HARD day, but I needed the closure and felt that my son needed to rest in peace. My fiance's grandmother died the month before my son did, so we buried them together. I was happy that my son was buried with his great grandmother and not alone.
It's your call on if and when you would like to bury your son's ashes. I thought it helped because we held a memorial service for him and his great grandmother and then buried them with family and friends present. The priest spoke and was great. I cried from the beginning to the end. But it was healing to have my son spoke about and remebered in the service. I think that you will know when you are ready. No need to rush. We didn't have the service until 5 weeks after he passed.

Sorry, one more thing to comment on. The hospital didn't take pictures!!! I am very mad about that!! I have read that every hospital in the country has a plan on what to do after a stillbirth. Take pictures and make a memory box. Of course you didn't think about taking pictures! When I was in the hospital, I didn't think to take pics! My mind wasn't right to think of things like that. The hospital took pics for me. Oh that makes me so mad! I am so sorry about that!!

hi there, my son had a burriel,so i dont have any ashes. maybe it sounds crazy but you could always keep yr angels ashes. or maybe scatter them in a faourite place of yrs where u can go to see yr angel when ever you want. xxx

just one more thing to add, sorry if i used the word crazy i didnt mean it that way. personally if i had my angels ashes i would keep them close to me. hope i havent said the wrong thing, i am a worry wart, take care xxx

I didn't take offense to crazy...I knew what you were talking about. :0)

We didn't have Esther cremated, and she is resting in the most peaceful beautiful place, but at times I wish we had her ashes with us so in the event that we did move she could always come with us. My husband is talking about moving out of state and that is one of the hardest things for me that we would be leaving her ... well I know she isn't there but her body. I would say keep the ashes and you could always do a memorial... we have a memorial garden for Esther. I hope this helps a little bit.

That's a really good point... the bit about moving out of state. We are as well, so I'm glad we never scattered or buried Jack's ashes here. Where we live now will always be the place where we lost our baby, which is one of the reasons we're moving. Personally, I like having his ashes with me.

I have my baby's ashes at home too. Since I didn't get any pictures of him at the hospital, I think is the only way I can be close to him. I'd touch the urn every time I can, and think about him. Maybe later I will want to bury them, but not just now. I need him with me, at least for a while.