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Any Dangers to Getting Pregnant Right After M/C?

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After reading kyspier's post and others' messages about pregnancy after miscarriage, I was wondering if there is a true medical reason why women are advised not to ttc until they have at least one regular menstrual cycle. From what I've read and been told by my doctor/nurses, the reasons to wait are:

1. to give your body time to recover (which includes, for those who don't have a D&C, time to allow the m/c to run its course and completely clear out as well as time to make sure your hCG levels to decrease);
2. to wait for you to resume ovulation (which the period is supposed to indicate);
3. to allow you to recover emotionally;
4. to allow medical professionals to track gestation more accurately (because they need to know day 1 of your menstrual cycle).

These are the only reasons I've been given. Does anyone know of others?

My husband and I aren't anxious to ttc again; however, we are reluctant to use condoms (the only bc method we could use short-term). Okay, let's be honest: he is more reluctant tan I to use condoms. :-) So I was wondering, should we opt not to use condoms, whether there are medical/health repercussions to getting pregnant soon after a m/c (if the planets align/four-leaf clovers sprout around our bed/rainbows arch over my uterus and we happen to get pregnant before we ttc).

Thanks for any insights you can share!
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my OB said there is no medical evidence, so go for it
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I'm in a unique situation because of my job making it pretty necessary that I conceive in the next few months - my OB said there's no absolute medical reason to wait at all - "go for it!"
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My OB recomended 1 or 2 cycles but said that nothing bad would come directly from getting pregnant too soon. He just said that more than likely I wouldn't get pregnant if my body wasn't ready... I've had one cycle and we're trying again.
Good luck to you!!!
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I don't know any about any Medical reasons but I do have a little personal experiance. I wasn't trying to get pregnant again so soon (scared that it would happen again) but got pregnant after only one regular period. Everything went perfectly well. I had no ill effects from the m/c. My son was born a healthy 10 lbs 15oz. So go for it and I wish you all the luck.
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My doctor said there is absolutely no reason to wait. She said that your body wouldn't actually conceive a child if it wasn't ready to do so.
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I was so happy to read this post because I wondered the same thing. I have had 3 m/c so far and am just 2 weeks out from the last one. My hubby and I got to finally "have fun" again tonight for the first time since. We were less than careful in the sense that we did not use a condom, but he just moved out of the way when the time was right. We seem to have the theory that in between each m/c we waited the 2 months they recommend and it took us 6 months anyway and both of those pregnancies ended in m/c. So maybe if we were to accidentally get pg from the drop that might be left in there, then maybe it was meant to be. I will keep watching to see what others say though. Sorry if all this was TMI. :)
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I'd listen to my OB and give your body some time. You can try the Today Sponge if hubby doesn't want to use condoms. It's effective, but you can't use it while you're on your period. Or since you're only trying to protect against pregnancy, try Trojan Naturlamb condoms. They don't feel like anything, and the sensation is still there for him (that's what my DH told me, we have had to use them on occassion though I'm on b/c).
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Thank you all for your insights.

I'm not yet sure what we'll do (and I say this knowing that I'll be the one making the call). We are waiting until all the bleeding stops. then I want to get through my post m/c exam. Then, I suppose, we'll just play it by ear. If there's no medical danger to going without condoms, I'd rather do that. Not that I expect to conceive, but my husband prefers being sans wrapper. And, really, I feel much closer to him that way, too. (Like jsm16, I apologize if that was TMI!)
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You have a good sense of humour. I enjoyed reading your post. A friend of ours got PG straight after a MC and she had a healthy baby. After my current MC the doctor at the hospital told me to wait for six weeks to try again. I am 38 so I don't think I can afford to wait too long. Also if I wait for 3 months and then concieve the baby will be born in Dec which is my husbands busiest time of the year. He even went back to work after my son was born at 6am 22 Dec 2004. That was not very nice! I am even still a bit grumpy about it after 3 years. It took 3 months to concieve our son after my first MC and we started trying even b4 I got my fist period against the doctors advice. I was just desperate.
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oh yeah, I forgot to mention that a friend of mine had a m/c at 7 weeks and her doctor told her that she could start as soon as she wanted and she got pg before her first period and had a very healthy baby boy in the summer! So who knows...
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i thin k the main reason is to be able to track the gestation of baby best. i got pregnant after 1 period after mc, and baby was fine til 9 weeks when i mc again. i dont think this was due to been conceived straight after mc... it did stick a few weeks longer than 1st one.

i now found out today i am pg again, only 1 period after mc...so fingers crossed!!!
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In most cases it is fine to try immediately. However, my doctor told me that for some people the uterine lining needs time to build up enough to support a healthy pregnancy. So there is a chance (albeit it a very, very small one) of miscarrying because of an insufficient lining. My doctor asked me to wait simply so we could rule this out as a possible problem. She was very straightforward with me about it, presenting as having all the information about benefits and risks in order to make the right decision for us.

We chose to try again after I got my period but it still took a couple cycles to get pregnant after the first loss. Unfortunately, this pregnancy is ending in a blighted ovum--which is completely unrelated to when I conceived.

Please think about whether you are ready to face the possibility of not just another pregnancy, but another loss. I thought I was ready but I've been floored by this second one. I really didn't think I'd have multiple losses so I'm having a much more difficult time emotionally now.
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My doctor asked me to wait till I had 2 periods. I read alot of different opinions about it because I was ready to try again right away. I've read that you need to let your body recuperate before trying again and then I've also read that sometimes it's easier to get pregnant in the first few months after a miscarriage. For me that wasn't true. It's been since May and we're still not pregnant. My body has taken awhile to get back on the program!...lol....In fact, my doctor and I discovered that for probably the first 4 months after the miscarriage I wasn't even ovulating. It seemed like it but my hormone levels indicated that no egg was being released. I went on Clomid to see if there were eggs left. It was very hard this summer when my doctor said to me...you may be going thru early menopause.

I wasn't a good monkey at all...I didn't wait the 2 periods...I pretended I did but started having unprotected sex the month after my first period. I would say eat right, eat healthy, take all of your vitamin supplements and just have fun and enjoy yourself without the party hat.
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I would wait. We didn't try but didn't use condoms after our 1st m/c but we got prego again. I went for my 1st u/s which should've shown at 10 week baby I thought. It only showed a 6 week baby. They gave me hope because we had no real date to go from so maybe I was only 6 weeks. No, I was 10 weeks and was carrying a dead baby for almost 4 weeks. Wait!!!
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