
Miscarriage Support Group
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My friend was pregnant with twins the same time I was pg with my daughter last year. The twins were born premature, one was stillborn. The other twin died during heart surgery a month later. I have wanted to do something for her (maybe sending a card and flowers celabrating thier birth) But I am unsure what would be appropriate. i know she was planning on taking her family up to the gravesites to do a cupcake/birthday type memorial thing.
Also the birthday was on the June 6. So i missed it. My husband lost his uncle a few days before that (they were really close) and we just had the service for that, so i forgot and now am late on the twins b-day.
Any advice?
PS when i m/c recently, she didn't even want to talk to me about it, I helped her as much as i could when she lost the twins. until my daughter was born and she said it was too painful to be around me. So we were apart for several months before seeing eachother again. I am not angry with her for this but more for the not understanding the m/c thing. I still want to do something to acknoledge the twins.
Thank you all.
Also the birthday was on the June 6. So i missed it. My husband lost his uncle a few days before that (they were really close) and we just had the service for that, so i forgot and now am late on the twins b-day.
Any advice?
PS when i m/c recently, she didn't even want to talk to me about it, I helped her as much as i could when she lost the twins. until my daughter was born and she said it was too painful to be around me. So we were apart for several months before seeing eachother again. I am not angry with her for this but more for the not understanding the m/c thing. I still want to do something to acknoledge the twins.
Thank you all.
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Again, I would send a thinking of you card. Since her 2nd twin passed a month later, maybe you can do something more on that day. It' not just birthdays that are tough, for some the passing day is harder, for some easier. I would still send one card now so she knows you are still there, and another on the anniversary of losing her 2nd twin. HTH!
Thank you everyone!