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almost a year

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In Feb this yr I lost my baby at around 2 months. I didnt mean to get pregnant as I am only 20 years old, will be 21 in Feb but I love kids. I had just adjusted to knowing I was going to have a baby and I was happy. I hadnt told the father as he dumped me in Jan that yr. I lost the baby around the 2nd week of Feb and I still feel so much pain. I dont understand what happened. But I understand it probably happened for a reason, I just want to know what the reason was.

I see people with babies all the time and it breaks my heart because I wanted him/her so badly. This past weekend I finally told the would be father about everything. He was shoocked and cried a little. But I couldnt go through it alone anymore. I feel a bit better now that he knows but know the one yr mark is coming is breaking my heart.
Any ideas on how I can make it through this rough time?
soojin
soojin
It is NEVER easy to lose a baby. I have lost 4. However I do have a VERY healthy little girl who is three years old. Reason?! Who knows but God. As far as getting through this time, use DS to make good friends to help you through. We have all been through the same thing. Each anniversary of mine I think about what I have today. What blessing in my life that have kept me going. That seems to help me. I also do something special for myself, whether it is just a little time alone to reflect or going out and doing something, shopping, massage, etc. It is a common feeling to dwell on what we have lost so don't think even though it is almost a year I should be over this. YOU NEVER WILL GET OVER IT, YOU WILL JUST LEARN HOW TO LIVE WITH IT. Take care and if you ever want to talk, I am here.
4tomorrow
4tomorrow
I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in Jan. so it's been hard and I'm stil in alot of pain. But I find it comforting to be able to talk about this experience with someone that I trust. As far as the reason of having a miscarriage, I tend to think that it was God's plan. He knew that it wasn't the time for my baby. I hope you get some support and be able to get through this rough time. =)
deleted_user
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On Dec 26th I will reach my year mark. I have my good days, and my bad days. I relived the day I found out I was pregnant, Nov 15, and am dreading reliving the day I m/c. I don't know what to tell you...I myself don't know what I am going to do. That day is a milestone that I must overcome, but right now I just don't know how that is possible.
You are never going to know why this happened...you will just discover how strong you are and how strong your faith is. Plus, I know that my one year mark is going to be very traumatic. I am prepared that on that day, I will be a complete sobbing disaster. That's what I am preparing myself for. But maybe, that day won't be as bad as I think it will. Maybe our one year marks won't destroy us any further, but bring us closer to the peace we so desperately seek. I am not sure if any of this helps you cope, but I appreciate knowing that I am not going through these emotions all by myself. I am deeply sorry for your loss and hope that God has wonderful and joyful plans in store for you and yours.
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maybe you could do something in memory of the baby you lost. me and my bf are gonna plant a tree in our childs memory and it might help us find some closure.i know what you are going through.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i want to do something together with my ex, but i dont know if he will understand. sure he lost someone to but he didnt even know until last weekend, and I could tell he was upset, but not like i am.
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