Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
It has now been 3 days since they have told me that my baby has no heartbeat.I dreamed last night of this nightmare and after a good cry this morning i sit and think about what went wrong.I go to the doctor tomarrow to discuss having the miscarriage natural or having a dnc. What haunts me the most is what will happen to this baby, how could they just throw it out like trash when he/she had a heartbeat. I am scared about the whole process and i know noone who has gone through this. What happens during the dnc and is doing it natual better then the dnc. Any advice would be great.
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They dial ate your cervix and scrape your uterus to remove everything. I opted for a more natural way to go. My doctor offered me what is called the abortion pill I hate the name of it though and she didn't tell me I would have to go to a abortion clinic to get it. If you don't want the baby thrown out tell them you want to bury it they will take the proper measures for you. I am so sorry. (HUGS)
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I'm sorry to hear about your loss. i had a dnc 2 weeks ago. i opted to have it done the night that we found out that there was no heartbeat. for me personally i didn't want to wait to miscarry on my own, it too emotionally painful. there are a lot of options, and most hospitals will let you take your baby to be burried. It's your body, your right.
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I want you to know that just like sunblotch said there are options but most hospitals push for the most scientific process because it is what "they" want. Make sure that what happens is what you want. My husband and I chose to have my labor induced with two pills called Citerex(sp) they are inserted against your cervix then your body will start labor on its own. You are awake just like you would be in labor and it hurts like hell but I would do it again because I got to hold my baby and name him and tell him that we love him. Do what YOU think is best. I will pray for you. Take care.
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I know how you feel. Last month I saw my baby's heartbeat and then just last week, I was told that there was no heartbeat and that I had miscarried. I am scheduled to have the dnc in 2 days. It's weird knowing and feeling pregnant when all I am doing is carrying a baby that isn't alive. For me, having a dnc is one way of having closure but I will always have the ultrasound picture of my baby when their heart was beating. I wish you well in your decision. I'm still having the same feelings as you as far as what when wrong, the nightmares and crying.
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