Miscarriage Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have experienced the traumatizing event of a miscarriage or a stillbirth. Miscarriage remains one of the most common complication of pregnancy, but that doesn't make it easy to deal with. Join the group and find support in the company of others who know what you're going through.
Hi. I am new here. This week, my husband and I found out the baby we had tried to conceive for 1 yr had died. On May 22, her (mother's intuition) heartbeat was strong at 164 bpm. This past Monday, I started spotting and Tuesday there was no heartbeat (11 wks). A D&C was scheduled for Friday, but I was able to deliver my baby alone at home on Thursday. This gave me such a feeling of peace as I was able to see her and hold her, and the Dr did not TAKE her from me. My heart is shattered and all I do is cry, but in some strange way, this actually made me feel better. Is this crazy or what????
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No its not crazy, My second miscarriage I had to have a d&c and It was very hard for me, to me its a very private thing and although the people at the hospital were very kind, I just felt like I would rather have done it at home like I did with my first miscarriage, It gave me a sense of closure, like I saw it out to the end and it helped me somehow. Everything at the hospital just seemed cold and I felt like everyone was looking at me crying my eyes out..I am so sorry for your loss
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Its not crazy at all. It allowed you to bond with your baby like a hospital and an operating room never would have. You were able to have the peace of home instead of a cold sterile place that a hospital is. I am sorry for your loss, and its good that you were blessed with this feeling of some peace in such a sad time. Allow yourself to grieve, the crying is a normal thing so just let it be. When you need to talk, the group is here.
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Thanks so much for your validation and caring. This is truly the most difficult thing I've ever been through in my life.
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No it is not crazy. You were able to hold your daughter and see how precious she was. I think that would have brought me a great deal of peace. Sorry for your loss.But if you can find peace in any part of this, you are truly strong.
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It's amazing how similar your situation is to mine, even the dates. I totally understand where you are coming from and that peaceful feeling you experienced is totally justified.
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