I just had my second (in 6 months) blighted ovum m/c last week. I know exactly how you feel. I was getting bigger (I was only 7.5 weeks, but it was my 3rd pg this year and my 5th overall-I have 2 healthy boys). My symptoms were definitely there and my numbers were going up. We had the u/s and that told us the same thing, empty sac. I put it this way to people: I know that a baby never developed but from the moment we pee on a stick and find out we are pregnant we begin dreaming. We begin dreaming about what the baby will be, what it will look like, what it will become, etc. We picture ourselves with the baby and how it will change us and how it ALREADY has changed us. So, with a blighted ovum, you are not mourning just an empty sac, you are mourning and empty dream. You are mourning what could have and SHOULD have been. So, in that way, you have every right to mourn and express grief for your loss. I am so sorry for your loss and I am here if you want to chat.
Jillian

The same thing just happened to me. I went to the doctor a week ago today to see the baby's heartbeat. I was 10 weeks and there was nothing on the ultrasound but an empty sac. I was devastated. I had a d&c this past Tuesday and I am having a hard time keeping it together. My Dad passed away very suddenly in May so losing this baby and not having my Dad along with Christmas is almost too much to bear. I am sorry that you are going through this too.

Thank you for letting me know that I'm not alone in feeling this way. Dreams are pretty powerful.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 7wks and the day I went for my ultrasound to confirm my doctors news the tech. was so uncaring and told me she didn't see anything! I was so upset, it was like life was sucked out of me. Were here for you, hubby may not understand now but he will it took mine sometime to understand my feelings about everything. God bless!

melodyM (and others) - How much time did it take for your husbands to understand? It hasn't been two weeks yet. But, my hubby acts like it never happened already.

My husband fully admits that there is no way he can fully understand what I went through and it was hard for him because it was all not happening to him. I have been through 3 m/c now. The first we saw a heartbeat and then nothing 4 weeks later. The second two were blighted ovums (empty sacs like you) and he said the 3rd one hit him the hardest for some reason. He cried at the u/s...so you never know how it will hit them or when. I pray that you never have to go through this again and that your husband will come to understand all of this soon for you. Maybe let him read some of your journals, I find I can get my feelings across better when I write them so maybe he does not fully understand how you feel about it all. Good luck and let me know if you need to chat.
Jillian

I had same thing at seven week this with my first husband i believe this led to the break up of our marriage even though we had two kids, he did not understand my pain. Second marriage have a son four then it happened again at twelve weeks i also had all pregnancy symptoms sick etc i felt so cheated, hate it when people say empty sac for me i believed for twelve weeks there was a baby and still felt a loss. You must share your pain with your partner. good luck x.

I've had two losses in the past five months, a missed miscarriage and now a blighted ovum. I'm floored this time, just lost.

Since the first loss I have been seeing a licensed psychologist who specializes in fertility issues. I saw her the same day we got the bad news this time and plan to go back as often as I need to. I don't think I'd be functional at all without her help.

At first I could barely get out of bed, once I made myself get out and take a walk, it actually helped. So exercise, even if it's mild, is something else to try.

As far as the husband part goes, there's no magic cure there either. I do know that men handle everything emotional very differently than we do; this is no exception. The truth is they just don't bond with pregnancies as early as we do, and for him, it may be easier to act like it didn't happen. This, of course, is impossible for us and may even make things worse. It is important to communicate that you have different needs than him AND to give each other space to grieve differently, without judgment or pressure. This is extremely difficult on both sides.

I'm very sorry for your loss and will be thinking of you. You aren't alone. Hang in there.

that's how I feel to did I have a baby inside or not. some say yes some say no. We just have to hang in there. HUGS

that's how I feel to did I have a baby inside or not. some say yes some say no. We just have to hang in there. HUGS

Hi, I'm so sorry to read your post. I too had a 'blighted ovum' about a month ago. I've had 2 missed miscarriages and ended my pregnancy with my son at 21wks as he had no kidneys and would die.

You have lost a baby, even though it was an empty sac, and the feelings of loss are just as great and valid as if there was a baby there which had died.

All I can do is send you some hope, strength and babydust....hope 2008 brings you (and us all) a live healthy baby
Deborahxxx

I am so sorry for your loss and i too am in the same position, i MC 3 weeks ago at 10 weeks, we too discovered only a sac when we had the scan and just like you i had morning sickness a belly, huge painful boobs, well everything you would have being pregnant! It was a huge shock and so confussing i kept asking and questioning why i felt this way still and i was convinced they were wrong for a while too. You still have every right to grieve in body and mind you had a baby in there and nobody can tell you any different!
If you want to chat please mail me xxxxx

I went through the same thing. It doesn't make sense though, bc my first ultrasound, which was at 6wks, i saw the babies heartbeat. but after i miscarried the doctors said it was a blighted ovum. this doesn't make any sense. if there was an empty sac, then how did a heartbeat show?! it is very frustrating. im here for and with you!