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11th miscarriage

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I just had a d/c last friday that marked my 11th miscarriage. I am so lost I really just don't know what to do. this is my second marriage and this is only the 3rd miscarrige I have had with this husband. I want a baby so bad, but I don't think I can keep going through this. It seems unfair to my husband to give up since not all the babies were his. My husband is very supportive, but I can tell he would really like for us to try again in the future. Is it totally unfair for me to not try again for my husband. I just don't know what to do. The doctor said that I could try again in about a year since they now know what was causing the miscarriages.
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oh my, i am really really sorry to hear about your losses.

if you really want a baby then dont give up, especially now the doctors know what is causing them. though i'm sure whatever you chose to do your husband will support you.
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Wow I have had 8 with my current partner and he is still eternally hopeful and would still love to keep trying and some part of me is with him on that thought but physically I know I could do it over and over again but emotionally I feel it gets harder each time and boy that is the one that gets me we are still hoping but will have to wait and see at the end of the day honey you have to go with what you feel is right for your emotional well being what would he rather a balanced wife or unbalanced unhappy wife which could be the outcome if he makes you feel pushed into something you are not sure about it is only something you can discus with him and hope that he will understand even if it is a temporary break from trying until you feel able to continue. .............good luck and best wishes xxx
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DONT GIVE UP. MY HUSBAND HAS A 24 YEAR OLD SON. AND MY BOY FRIEND HAS A 21 MONTH OLD SON. I HAVE NONE, IVE LOST 2 AND PG AGAIN. THEY DONT UNDERSTAND HOW I FEEL NOT HAVING A BABY. IM GOING TO KEEP TRYING UNTIL IM TO OLD I GUESS WE CANT GIVE UP.
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Wow 11 miscarriages I'm so terribly sorry.
I understand how you feel and where you are coming from but you have to understand that your body and your mind have gone through a lot and maybe need a brake and can look into maybe adopting, but if you feel that you are ready to try again mentally and physically by all means keep trying and don't give up, I know is hard for you but just trying to help you and give you some ideas that my be helpful to you.
Hope all is well
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Hi, I am so sorry for your many losses, thanks for your support with me as well. The most important thing that we all have to remember is the decision to cont trying or pursue other options is not up to one person but is a choice that you and your sig other (husband, boyfriend etc) have to make together. We can only be successfull if we remain cohesive in these desicions for the most support no matter what the outcome. Talk your concerns over with your husband, and take it from there. Good luck. I am here for you.
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