Military Families Support Group

Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.

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I was talking to Paul last night, then he said "I gotta go, bye!" and hung up. I was so scared, I started screaming and crying, and then he called me and said, "it's fine, it was ONLY a rocket..." ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh............... like that makes me feel better?
I can't stand this deployment, I need him home, now. I can't deal with this stress, I'm so afraid to lose him... also...
He thinks he's horrible at his job, and I know in my heart he's not, and I wish I could just make things better, but I never can. There seems to be nothing I say to increase his morale or make him feel better about himself. I'm so freaking hopeless.
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just support him in the best way you can. make your short calls special. he knows u love him. but just like u are worried about him being there and his feelings, he is also worried about you being here without him. tell him that even though you are apart and miss him, you will be ok. lets just pray that this war crap sill be over soon.hugs
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Insurgence try hit and runs. They shoot a rocket and take off. They do not try a lot of fire fights. We out number them and our aim is better. The first time i heard explosions and "gotta run" i was a mess too, and it doesn't get much easer. but if it is an explosion and you hear him afterwards than he is most likely ok.
i understand your feeling of hopelessness and i am told that its not true and i would tell you that but it hasn''t worked for me. although if you are trying to instill confidence in someone else shouldn't you be confident in yourself.
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thank you all, you think he'll be okay? I need reassurance... I can't deal with this!
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You can deal with this deployment...you are already doing it. Sure, is it hard, absolutely but you are making it through. We all have days that we cry and are sad because we want them to come home safe, but they will come home only when its time. Stay busy and be proud of yourself. You are doing great. You just can't see it.
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My guy told me that when I hear the news about mortar fire to think of him sleeping because he sleeps right through that type of fire. And as they hear the rocket and start to say incom......by the time they finish with "ing" they know they are safe. They learn to deal with it. Of course you will worry but stay focused that he will be coming home to you.
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