Okay so I have been dating a man in the navy for about 3 in a half months now and things were going great. He was deployed to Iraq and hes been gone 3 months now...He will be back in april, The thing is once he gets back from Iraq he will be out of the Navy in 6 months so roughly october/November, He doesnt want to re enlist he just wants to go home. But he just broke up with me about a couple of weeks ago saying that he didnt want to be with me cause he knew he loved me enough to stay here in washington instead of going home and all he wants to do is go home! He said that it also wouldnt be fair to have me move with him to Ohio cause he wouldnt have a job and neither would I, he said he wouldnt have a place to stay and he would have no way to support me and he said that wouldnt be fair to me. I said to him I would support him in whatever he wanted in life and that I would be there for him. But in a selfish way I asked him to stay with me till he leaves to go home for good cause the way I see it is, I would rather love him knowing hes leaving than love him and never get a chance. cause the thing is I met him about 2 weeks before he was deployed and I decieded in that 2 weeks I loved him enough to stay with him well he was deployed and now its over before it ever began. Is it fair for me to ask him to stay? I mean if he cares about me enough to know he would stay for me is that a selfish thing to ask when all he wants to do is go home? The way I see it is when he comes home in April we are going to hang out and be friends and it will still be just as hard when he leaves whether hes with me or not! What do I do?
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