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So my boyfriend Dean is flying in on New Years Ever. YAY! However, I spoke to him yesterday and I got really upset by what he said.
He had posted a bulletin on Myspace saying "Hey everyone I'm coming home on the 31st. So if you want to plan chill time let me know so I don't end up cramming inpromptu hang outs everyday. And if you know of anything fun to do on New Years, let me know!"
I guess I just thought he'd maybe want to spend some one-on-one time with me. I haven't seen him in 3 months, and I thought he'd want to see me a little bit more than go to a party. I understand he wants to see his friends, but they didn't write him in boot camp. They don't call him. They just leave myspace comments every few weeks. I've been there for him ALWAYS! He's already making plans with everyone else, and he hasn't made a single plan with me for his visit out here.
Am I crazy? Am I being stupid? If any of you have gone through this or know what the deal is with this behaviour, please let me know. Share with me your advice. I'll be forever thankful.
He had posted a bulletin on Myspace saying "Hey everyone I'm coming home on the 31st. So if you want to plan chill time let me know so I don't end up cramming inpromptu hang outs everyday. And if you know of anything fun to do on New Years, let me know!"
I guess I just thought he'd maybe want to spend some one-on-one time with me. I haven't seen him in 3 months, and I thought he'd want to see me a little bit more than go to a party. I understand he wants to see his friends, but they didn't write him in boot camp. They don't call him. They just leave myspace comments every few weeks. I've been there for him ALWAYS! He's already making plans with everyone else, and he hasn't made a single plan with me for his visit out here.
Am I crazy? Am I being stupid? If any of you have gone through this or know what the deal is with this behaviour, please let me know. Share with me your advice. I'll be forever thankful.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
When Dino was fist coming back home for Turkey Day I knew that we weren't going to be having too much one on one time. His main focus was drinking beer and seeing everyone!! I also made sure for that to happen! I planned a get together with friends 2 1/2 hours away from where we lived and I live and we had a great time! We did find time to sneak away and have "quality time" and it was just so much fun! He never really made plans with me because it was kind of an unspoken thing that no matter what was going on he was going to be with me anyways. He thanked me for putting together all the get togethers and he really appreciated it.
So please don't worry! He knows that you have been there this entire time so I think he already knows you'll be together wether or not him and his friends get together. I also have to say that it was kind of comforting to know that I was not going to be with him by myself for the first day because of nervousness and what if there are changes. But once we were in the car from the airport and making the road trip to start the holiday, it was just like that chapter in our relationship had been unpaused and kept on right where it left off. You get to see how close you have been become in these last few months and it's just exciting to know that you are way closer than before!
I give you big hugs!! Hope this helped!!
Thanks again! Best wishes for you as well!!!