
Military Families Support Group
Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.

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Well here it is, Friday night, and I'm sitting here alone. Last Friday at this time, my man and I were having a wonderful dinner out, followed by an even better evening. Now he's 1100 miles away, and all I can think about. It doesn't seem fair that other couples are still having their wonderful evenings TOGETHER. All I can do is sit here and wonder, "what is he doing?" God, I miss him, and want him back so bad! This really sucks!
Sorry, but thanks for letting me vent. It really hurts, as many of you know.
Sorry, but thanks for letting me vent. It really hurts, as many of you know.
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I know how hard it is to be apart. DH has had many sea tours and 2 unaccompanied tours overseas and the seperations suck, but you'll get through it. Talking on the phone and sending emails definately help, but when you climb into bed at night is when (I think) it sucks the most.
On the lighter side, I look at DH's absence as a time when I get to do a lot of stuff for me and the kids. We can be on our own schedules and pretty much d ogirly things and girlyfy (is that even a word) the house until he gets back. You really find out what you're made of when the DH's are gone.
Good luck and hope you have a good night!
Don't have a pity-party. Stay busy! I'm on round two deployment...2 years apart....I can only say that if you sit around and feel sorry for yourself, you're not doing yourself any favors! Plan a trip. Work. Volunteer. Make some friends with the same issue and focus on spending Friday/Saturday nights with them. My friends have kids and I don't...so, we always do stuff at their home after the kids go to bed.
You'll adjust.
My sympathy cup is empty on this one.
You need to figure out if you're staying together and do your best to me a good mother.
Good luck.
1. Very busy at his new duty station, which is completely plausible
2. Starting his seperation from the relationship.
If I were you, I would get on the horn (why do we call the phone a horn anyhow?) and ask him point blank, Are we still committed to each other.
Also, as I stated before and if your relationship is not floundering, what is keepting you from making the move to VA? If it's because you are unsure of how things will be or are scared of going to a new place, welcome to the miltary. Wait until you have to handle a move by yourself with an infant and lose your ID card...that one really bites the big one!! LOL
I think that if you want to survive this thing called military life, unfortunately, you need to endure long times apart, but as Shelby stated, get busy and no pity parties. Especially don't do the pity party at a spouse club meeting.....best way to make enemies.
I'm not trying to be rude, most of this was typed with a smile. So, just talk to him, tell him you want to be with him and set the date to move.
Maggie
Keep your head up. Ask him what he wants out of the relationship. Do you have children? Are you married? I hope that you figure things out. Don't get discouraged, it will get better once you get used to the flow of things. It takes time, it took a lot of time for me, but just be patient and everything will work itself out.
Support groups are about having an opinion and being realistic. If you can't do that, try getting involved in the spouses group--I believe they only want to say super positive things...
I highly recommend being honest--I don't suger-coat life because life is messy...and if I hadn't had tough love from people at various times in my life, then I wouldn't have found strength and moved forward.
and...No one said "suck it up"...you're over-interpreting.