Military Families Support Group
Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.
Hi, my name is Victoria and I live in Kansas. I grew up a Military Brat and when I moved out on my own I thought that part of my life was over. Now married, one of my husbands friends brought up the idea of joining the military and if one does something all 3 stooges do it. My husband and his two best friends joined in the buddy program. They were all 3 to go to basic together but the dumb ass that enlisted them was a mess up and has since been kicked of the military, and none of them get to go together. At first I was mad because I thought I was out of that, then the more I thought about it I knew that I love my husband and I will support him however I can. The first left Monday the second leaves in Jan and now my husband doesn't know when he is going because he is having probs with his hearing. I always said he couldn't hear very good and I didn't know if he would even make it through MEPS but the doc said he just passed. We were playing with our auto air guns and I was hiding and I was shooting him, he could feel it but could not hear where they were coming from, where I was hiding. And that scared the S*#t out of me. So he promised he would go to out doc, He did and failed the hearing test BAD. He was sent to a specialist and failed his test too. they gave him pills to take for 10 days and when that didn't help they put in tubes and he has to go back every month for a couple of months to see it that will help. I am back at square one now and feel, I don't know what I feel, I know I have to support him but at the same time I don't want him to go due to all of this. and part of me has a resentment against some part of the Army for letting him enlist when he can F#*king hear. Is that how bad we need people? And if they are going to let him join without hearing how well are they going to take care of him? I have never 2nd guessed the military they did wonders for my dad and my family growing up but now I am so scared and lost and I feel alone. His friend's wifes have kids to take of and someone to talk to, I don't I have had lost 3 babies. I don't know what to do, what to think.
Mantanona
If your hubby hearing is that bad, then the Army really isn't the place to go. In fact they are almost always the first to be sent out, and if he ant even tell where your shots are coming from...well, that's just scary. I dont blame you for freaking out. If they do pass him there is a second swearing in before he can even head out to basic....When I enlisted I didn't know this...He can still back out until that second swearing in. So if this is really something you dont want him to do than continue to talk to him about it till then, try convincing him to join another branch if he's really determined to join the service. My husband initally wanted to join the Army, but I convinced him to join the Air Force instead. The Air Force has higher standards as far as his ASVAB scores go, but they take really good care of thier soliders. By the way I am so sorry about your 3 babies. I've lost 4 myself, I know it's hard.
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i agree with mantanona. my husband was in the navy and got hury terribly, they told him he was faking and gave him a medical discharge. years later when he decided to go back into the military after being 1 month away from grad in the navy, it was hard finding a branch that would take him because of his age. he scored a 99 on the asvab. the highest score. the airforce wanted him but with all the med waivers he needed another age waiver would make it even harder. he had 3 surgeries the first 3 yrs out of the navy becasue of the injury. he went national guard because it was easier to enlist and then transfered to army active. so far the Army has taken very good care of us and becasue if his prior injury he has to get checked out often. talk with your husband and figure out what is best for him
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My boyfriend is enlisted in the Navy and we are currently having similar issues but with eyes. My boyfriend's sense of depth perception never developed as a kid and has left him without the general sense of how far something is compared to something else. He is now training to work special forces with the Marines. because of other issues at the time of enlistment they failed to give him his steroscopic (depth perception) test, enlisting him under DQing pretenses. I fear for him now more than ever with the thought of deployments approaching. I'm glad you guys sought outside help as the Navy has done nothing for my boyfriend but give him unearned health wavers. Express your concern to your husband and then seek all the help or assistance you need in getting what you guys think is right. If you can prove his hearing is really that bad, you can get him DQ'ed for his contract on medical discharge. Best of luck to you both. I'll be thinking of you.
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