My mother is in the military and she was choosed to go to war. She has been up there for a while. But to deal with the fact that I miss her and that she is in a dangerous situation I tell myself over and over that she loves me enough to continue to fight and come home to me.

i wake up in sweats sometimes to but you have to think good thoughts and know he will be home soon if you get loney and can't sleep cuddle with his pollow and cry its ok to cry but know he is safe

Nights are the worst for me too. I have tried different sleep aides with some success but.... had a Lunesta at 10 and I'm still up at 3:20 :/ I would talk with a doctor about medication. It makes nighttime a lot easier. If you can get good rest, you will be able to get through your days better and be able to cope better overall.

I know exactly what you mean. My boyfriend is currently serving in afghan and i am missing him so much! It is so hard at night when i roll ovre and he's not there beside me. I then start thinking about where he is and what he is doing and how there is nothing i can do to keep him safe. But the only way to cope with all this is to remember that he is there to protect this country and that he loves you very much. Also he is out there and will thinking of you and missing you just as much as you think of and miss him. If you ever need to talk then please feel free to email me!

PRAY...its not in your hands sweety...Let Go and let God. You'll drive yourself mad and your BF too. Always talk postive and don't let him know this has been going on. Just tell him to take care of himself & let him know you have been praying for him.

i used to take one of my husbands shirts(1 he has worn) and place it over my pillow at night. having his smell around me really helps. i know it sounds sad but it really works.

Beka is right. I know when I was away from home I would send a T-shirt home about once a month. One that I had worn before it was laundried. My gf at that time would wear it to bed and was able to sleep better.
All our men overseas need their caerpackages. But those at home need little things from them as well.

Sgt. P

I'm the same way, but he calls as often as he can. It helps if I write him when I'm feeling lonely... it'll be okay. You are loved by him, never doubt it.

I know how you feel, when ever my Dad was aaway I used to be thinking all kinds of awful things, I hateds him going anywhere.
We are all her for you, just shout if you want anything ;-)

When I wake up in the middle of the night thinking of my guy, (which happens almost every night), I force myself to think about good memories that we have together. A bbq we went to together or something we laughed over. I refuse to let myself think of him fighting in a war otherwise I would just lose it. The good memories help me relax enough to fall back asleep. I also did start taking Lunesta. It was a godsend. Good luck.

I think distraction can work quite well. you know what I have been doing? I have Itunes on my computer, so I have been dowloading podcasts. (They are free.) I have downloaded tons of old radio programs. You know, the kind where a story is acted out, on the air. Since my computer is in my bedroom, I just put on my earphones (which have a loooong cord) and I listen until I am sleepy enough to fall right asleep. Then I pull off the earphones, roll over and snooze. :)

Yes, at night it is the hardest. During the day you can keep yourself busy, but at when you lay there trying to sleep, that is when it really gets hard. I also use my itunes, but i play my thunderstorm, it is what calms me and helps me fall asleep. I suggest you find something you love to do, read a book, watch a movie that makes you happy, something to distract you before you fall asleep.