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Family Advice for Service Person Who Just Came Hom

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My husband and I offered to raise our niece while her mother was deployed for the last 18 month. We went and picked up the child when she was 6 months old. On August 17 this year her mom was back home. We was excited gave her a welcome home party etc. After a few days she showed some lack of parenting skills towards her daughter, tickling the child tell she cried, calling her a mean child and spanked her bottom when ever the child said no. Taking her food away tell the child screamed for it back. (little girl is 2yrs old). This went on for about 8 days. We tried to get her to understand how that was affecting a young child and all we got was that is my kid I will do what I want to her and that we didn't know what it was like over there, that she had issues to deal with. To stop telling her how to raise her kid. Few days after that she took the little girl and has had no contact with us since. She didn't ask for the child's clothes, her toys, what food she liked who her doctor is or anything. But we made sure she got all those things.

It has been very heart breaking and we fear for the life of this little girl and her mother as well. But how do you get through how do you help when your seen as the 'enemy"?
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Having been in the military and raised 4 children and now raising another alone. If I were in your place I would do two things. First Contact Childrens Services and tell them your story. Second if she is still in the military contact her commanding officer and the Chaplin and tell them the story. Don't care about her being an enemy. Just protect the child. If you can prove what you say, Childrens Services will investigate and the military will take action. They do not look well on people not taking proper care of their families.

Sgt. P
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Please do check into getting both of them the help they need.. it must be so heartbreaking .. bless you for making a home for this child.. love D
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We did just that. Children services sent us a letter stating no immediate harm. I talked to the Chaplin and commanding officer who more or less said until she fiscally harms the child there isnt anything they can do. And to top it off her x-husband has decided her older child who is 8 needs to go live with her mother now. (both girls have different fathers).

To clearify we do not think her the enemy, she acts like we are.
All we care about is that the children are in a happy, safe loving home.
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I agree with BOB59. He makes sense and you will get the helpf or that child one way or the other.
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This has to be such a hard situation for u all I can say is just keep pushing the issue till u can find that one person who can help with this. There is always that one person who will help u just have to keep fighting..maybe u could fight for custody if it comes to it?
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