Hey honey, believe it or not it does get easier as the time goes by. Stay busy with family, and I spend alot of my spare time thinking up things to send my fiance. I also started a journal written to him that he can read when he gets home. I write about big things, small things, what happened in my day, my feelings and of course how much I love him and miss him. I also have a paper chain hanging on my wall. I put a link on it every day. I write the date and how many days he has been gone, also just a small note to him on each link. When he comes home he can read each and every one of them and know that he was part of the family every day he was gone.

Time will go faster if you stay BUSY!!!

Keep busy and don't watch the news. That's what I do. Always be sure to stay close to your friends and family, they can help get you through too. If you ever need to talk you can always come on here. I and a lot of others are always willing to give you the support you need. Drop me a line any time hun. I know exactly how you feel. My fiance has been deployed for 8 months and this is our first too.

Hey, I completely understand...my husband just diployed as well and we've only been married for a month. Its really hard and im having a hard time too but we are strong and we can get through this. If you want to talk please do cause Im going through the same thing. :)

I am with you Marie. Me and my husband got married on May 21, and he was home all of about two weeks before he had to leave to start mobilization training, and he has been deployed since August 12.

I found the best thing to do, if possible for you, is to get a part time job to help feel up the time. I would work a lot to pass time, then on my time off, I would pamper myself will all the extra cash I was earning. I would get my nails done or go buy something sexy to wear from my hubby when he got home. It helped me a lot and it passes the time much faster. You can also do volunteer work with something that makes you happy. I also went for a lot of long walks, made soaps, picked up doing mosaics, made charm bracellets for all my friends, and went out with my girlfriends whoes husbands were also deployed. It's sometimes best to be around those who know just what you are going through without ever having to say a word. You can also try getting involved on base, or just pick up a note book and write in it every night to him, then give it to him when he returns. It will be a sweet gift and he will know just how much he was missed, which always means a lot to any service member! I hope these helped! Also, try calling your bases family support center. They should be able to tell you if there are any job openings on base, volunteer ops, craft shops, or even groups, such as the hearts apart groups I used to go to, made esp. for military spouses with their men and women they love deployed!

While my husband was gone for all of 2006, I worked two jobs and lived at home with my parents. I was at work all day and I got a computer game to play when I couldn't sleep at night. Get a body pillow, so the bed doesn't feel so big. I also wrote him a letter everyday he was gone, something short and cute... And mailed them oncea week. When he came home, he showed me in his pocket was the picture I gave him before he left and all the notes in on envelope. Take care hunny...