I have been dating this guy in the national guard for about 5 months now. the day after my birthday which he pretended did not exist, he tells me that he has been told his unit is up for deployment in the first part of 08. he has since told me that he is going to volunteer if his unit is not going. for the past few weeks he has been having bad dreams and will not discuss them with me or anyone. also he has become more distant from me. for the past few weekends he tells me that i am smothering him even though i have not seen him but once that week and breaks any plans we have to "see friends" he has not seen in a while. He wants me to stand my him if he goes to iraq but how can I when i feel like he does not appreciate me or anything I do for him now. Does he really expect me to put my life on hold for over a year when he can not tell me he loves me or thinks that we will be together forever? someone please help me understand him