
Military Families Support Group
Today's military family faces a lifestyle that is comprised of frequent deployments, which results in increased family separations. This often proves to be a stressful challenge for military families. This community is dedicated to the families that are dealing with the unique challenges of distance and military-related stress.

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well i havent been here much maybe one or two posts. but DF left today for afghan and is supposed to be away for 8 and a half months. i cant believe he is actually gone. his plane left about an hour ago and i cant stop crying. how do you handel it? how do you make yourself stop crying and thinking about the worst things possible? how do you live with knowing you spent every night in each others arms and now that is all gone? i just dont understand how my heart is breaking so bad and there is nothing i can do about it... any help or words of wisdom will be so appreciated... thanks all in advance
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My best advice is to not watch the news and have faith that he will come home safe. Get yourself a body pillow, spray the heck out of it with his cologne and snuggle up to it every night. Stay busy. You will have to force yourself to focus at first and it won't happen overnight, but you will find your groove and things will get easier.
Our first deployment was horrible for me. I cried everytime I spoke to my H and was not the nicest person to him. I was stressed, depressed and extremely unhappy. My H is deployed right now and has been gone for almost two months. I cried that first day, got through it and moved forward.
You need to be strong for your man. He is over there making sure that you are able to lay your head on your pillow every night and sleep in peace. It's ok to cry and to miss him. We all miss our loved ones and we all cry. There are still days that I will think of my H and cry.
So, cry and let it all out. After that, chin up, put a smile on your face,be proud of your man and know this: Missing someone gets easier every day because even though it's one day further from the last time you saw each other, it's one day closer to the next time you will. ~Author Unknown
Stay strong sweetie. You can and will get through this!
Also, NEVER watch CNN when you are sad.
You can do it sweetie!
My H is preparing to head out again too. Time is creeping up so fast, so I know how you feel. It does suck for sure.
Just let them know they will be missed and loved. Make sure they know you will try your very best to stay strong and take the time to some how better your self in some way. Positive thoughts to stay with them helps them get through too. Remember they miss us too.
Now, make your self special. Treat yourself to that spa, or new purse, or haircut or whatever when you feel blue. Have "girl" time. Next, involve yourself with a group or organization. My husband deployed to the middle east so many times, I threatened to buy property there. Just know,it'll be ok