Menopause Support Group

Menopause is the physiological cessation of menstrual cycles associated with advancing age. It normally occurs in women between the ages of 45 and 55, when the body begins to slow and stop the production of eggs, estrogen and progesterone production decreases, and menstruation diminishes, eventually stopping altogether.

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does meno make you stupid?

Oh ladies. I had an awful day. I felt confused and messed up at work because of it. To top it off Sunday I had faxed a proposal along with a cover letter and price list to a potential customer for my husbands' business; it was to a lucrative account that we can really use...I got an email that said she couldn't find the price for services- could I point it out or send it? I opened the attachment and 2 pages were missing. I didn't proof my scan and it whisked 2 (!) pages through without scanning them. :( Now I feel like "you never have a 2nd chance to make a 1st impression". SIGH. What's wrong with me.
It's so depressing.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

Oh you are being too hard on yourself, ThinksRA... Things like this often make us feel really inept, but when those things happen to me, I just shake my head and realize it's part of the "brain fog" that I pray will lift soon. Maybe you could just fax her the info again and apologize for the mishap... afterall, everybody does things like that every now and then, and who knows, she may have had a few menopausal moments herself and completely understand...LOL.
thinksRAstinks
thinksRAstinks

Rosa- you always make me feel so good! I did exactly what you suggested, I just don't know what age this woman is and whether she will understand.

I just get so mad at myself! I hate making mistakes and as of late it seems to be happening more often than I can stand!
deleted_user
deleted_user

oh, yea, I do sooo many stupid things while operating under the influence of brain fog, I sometimes worry myself... as if I needed to add to the anxiety. One thing I do alot is bump into things... like I am more clumsy than ever. I had a huge bruise on my arm, and really can't remember how I did it, although I THINK I hit it on the car door. When I went to the dr. the other day, the nurse commented on it, and when I told her I thought I hit it on the car door but I really couldn't remember, I worried that she would think I was covering up a domestic incident. (Oh my poor hubby). But I bang around things in this clutziness and can't remember what I did. Go into the laundry room and forget why I went it there, misplace things ALOT, etc. I get concerned about doing something really dangerous, like leaving my stove on or something. It's very maddening :(
deleted_user
deleted_user

Double yes on the bumping into things and mystery bruises!! And yeah, bruises always raise eybrows at the doctors' office! Good thing for some women, at least someone is checking and asking questions.
I am self-employed, which is a mixed blessing. My clients must think I'm nutz!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Please dont be so hard on yourself. Its lack of hormones that creates this problem. It is brain fog and normal. My sister was at lunch with me at a restaurant. We were sitting up by the front windows and she walked to a totally different booth not by the windows and realized it and felt stupid. I drop things, forget what I walked into a room for, mix up my words, and make mistakes. Just last night I was supposed to take up the cats food and water by midnight due to having a teeth cleaning today and being under anesthesia and forgot to. Actually there are pretty funny stories in my family because not only am I in menopause, 3 other sisters are as well. We are a hoot! Take it easy and hang in there! Judy
deleted_user
deleted_user

RA: We were forgetful when we were young too, we just think we weren't LOL....I recall studying like crazy for a test, then blanking out when getting the exam, knowing full well I did know the info....then it would come back to me as I calmed down....

I think we have such busy lives, such symptoms that bother us, and people that need us....no wonder we get distracted and just....make mistakes!

It is just normal at any time of life. These hormonal issues make everything seem larger than life....I am sure you are very intelligent and competent...and that's final!! LOL...DaisyC
nancy71611
nancy71611

I totally relate and the worst thing is that I have to look for a job during all this. Imagine me on an interview? I had a major mental block on one a few months back...................knew I wasn't getting that job. asn't meant to be , I guess...........................
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hang in there Nancy. I'll be losing my job in a year also. The interviewer may think the lapse was just nerves and everyone gets them during interviews. If you don't get the job, your absolutely right it wasn't meant to be. Move on and some lucky person will hire you and and realize how lucky they are they hired you!!! If I could figure out to send you a hug on this site, I'd send you one. Big squeeze!!!!
BobSue2008
BobSue2008

Oh yes. It makes me stupid. More than stupid, it makes me STOOPID which is stupid squared. Hmmm, in the last few days. I have 1) tried to make a picture of tea, boiled the water but forgot to put the tea bags in. 2.) Meant to put gas in the car. forgot. finally did. 3) Some more, but I can't remember them now. See? All I can remember is walking down the hall here at work saying "I'm sorry. so sorry. I forgot".

Don't feel bad, okay? We are all in the same boat. It's taking on water, but she's sound and she won't sink. : )
deleted_user
deleted_user

All of these comments sound way too familiar! I put some food in my tupperware container the other night and stuck it back in the cabinet instead of the refrigerator! Luckly, I cought myself.

Does anyone know of any natural remedies to help keep the brain sharp? I'm on an SSI now for my symptoms and off the pill. My Dr. was concerned about the risk of blood clotting and stroke from being on the pill too long. I can handle any of the menop symptoms except losing my brains!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

Not sure but I think fish oil is supposed to be beneficial for the brain. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user

My brain fog moment yesterday.-I was driving to work, , did a shorttrip off a big roundabout to pop into shop. Came back to roundabout and went all way round roundabout pointing back home and forgot I was meant to be going to work for at least a whole minute or two down the road!
thinksRAstinks
thinksRAstinks

just thought I'd update to let you know despite my screw up we got the job! So I beat myself up unnecessarily. Lets remember to be kind to ourselves!
fighting4change
fighting4change

Yay RA - glad to hear it!