as far as I know the only think that helps is hormone replacement.

I am on htr, activella. I guess it is the lexipro that is killing it as well.

I have been on prozac and it slows reaction and climax down sometimes. I asked dr for wellbutrin to offfset the side effects and he said he thinks wellbutrin would make me aggitated. LOl, having crummy libido is making me agitated. Wake up dr. I also have found now i have pain in my vagina, so may have new prob. Hilly

I don't have an answer, but feel your pain. 3 1/2 years ago, I seperated from my now ex and begged the doctor to give me something to get rid of my sex drive, he simply smiled and said if I could bottle it we could make millions and someday you will be wanting it back. I laughed and said yeah right, this will never leave me. I now wish it was back, I miss it. Premerin helped some, but I could only stay on that for a year due to risk of breast cancer. Good luck my friend and let me know you hear of something!

Wish I had some magic answer for you but I don't. I am just turning 40 (in January) and feel the peri has taken full hold of me. My libido is non existant...I have no interest! That is NOT like me at all. I try and talk to my guy and let him know it's me and not him. Keeping the lines of communication open is the about the best advice I can give.

You are not alone...hang in there.

Racermom, I know how you feel because I am going through the same thing. I have found this new web site for women that gives you alot of information. The web site is www.womentowomen.com/ They have links you can click on over on the left side where you can find alot of information. Hormones are usually the answer,I am going to check into Natural Hormones which are bioidentical because I am a high risk for breast cancer. Hope this helps you because research on the internet gives people alot of different options...Patti7

My obgyn prescribes a testosterone cream that you apply topically in the area around your "mommy parts". I find this helps somewhat, it's not a magic pill like the men have but it is better than doing nothing at all.

Do you work and/or have small children or teens at home? Responsibilities can drain you and affect your libido as well. I worked with my doc to find the right drug combo for my psych that thankfully doesn't affect my libido, but we only have 1 of our 2 children left at home now and he is a senior, so my responsibilities are lessening which helps. I think menopause affects different women differently. It helped my mom's sex life and it has helped mine since my hubby had a vasectomy years ago as I no longer worry about getting pregnant. You may want to also focus on cuddling, playful touch, and keeping the communication open. I've also found that trying not to make the "Big O" the focus of sex helps too; think of it as a time of expressing your love for your hubby. I hope this helps.

hi everyone, racermom, you resound me completely. during and even after perio, my libido left me, and i don't feel sexy these days. i try, i pretend, yet,i hear that it'll come back after the hormonal changes are over. i've been going thru this problem for 2 years now.

and I used to have MULTIPLE orgasms within MINUTES of penetration. Now it takes forever and the intensity of the orgasms isn't as strong. Its a REAL bummer..If you find an answer..let ME know!!

I lost my sex drive too, but it came back. I swear, all on its own. THAT Was a great surprise. Having a very loving and understandng man helped me a lot. I tried the testosterone and I wanted to have a bar-room brawl! LOL SERIOUSLY, I did not get along with that med.

I know this is disappointing to women but for me acceptance really helped. I think once I relaxed over it, that helped too. In any case, I feel for all of you..
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