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Please help me help my boyfriend quit!

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He has been in rehab for only a week now in a place that is 4 hours from where we live. When he talks to us on the phone and during the first few hours that we saw him, all he did was cry and beg to come home. He says he can quit on his own and he wants to change. He threatened to kill himself or runaway and claimed he was going to go crazy. But i really think it's best for him. I know he doesnt hate it quite as much as he says. He has made friends there and he likes playing the sports and activities with the boys there. And he even told me before we left that he didnt really want to runaway or kill himself..he was just upset. What can I say or do to help??
Loved1
Loved1
in Al Anon we learn that when we have an addicted loved one, we have to put the focus on what we do have power over - our own lives. There are many like you who want to help the addict or alcoholic. All we can do is lead them to the help they need which I would suggest a 12 step program which suggests a whole new way of life based on the 12 steps one day at time. This is only if he wants help. This could go on for years or a lifetime. Al Anon is great.
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thanks. all advice is appreciated. =]
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any more advice? please?
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i'm not sure i understand totally - your boyf is in rehab i get, are u just still worried about him and stuff?
You can give your love and support to him and that's sure to help - even if he doesn't realise it.
If he is already at rehab then maybe leave it to them for now? and use the time he is away to focus on yourself. no matter what you should be the most important person in your own life so do some pampering or something for yourself.

I had a pedicure today and it was a really big deal for me - sounds silly but i realised that I never do anything nice like that for myself anymore.
deleted_user
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thanks. yeah..he is in rehab. and the reason im still worried about him is because he has threatened to runaway or kill himself there. and i know they dont lock the doors there and they just recently had a boy runaway from there. so it's possible. and it scares me.

however, he called me on wednesday and said that although he still wants to come home, he's doing a lot better.

i dont know. i guess what i really need to know is how to help myself and what to do for him when he gets out?
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