After a painful 25yr journey of denial, my husband has finally conceded to seek help for his addiction to marijuana. i feel responsible in the sense that in my attempt to put the lid tightly on our problems because of the stigma it carries, i have been the silent victim who has passively enabled him to carry on this way. i have hidden this from our 2 children who are now 21yrs and 22 yrs of age. When i caught him red handed smoking on the patio this past saturday, he continued to lie that it was tobacco and not weed. The frequency and ease with which he lies is troubling. 5 yrs ago when i caught him, he replaced the weed in the rolled up joint which i had taken away from him and kept in my purse with sand particles. Anyone who would go to that extent to cover up a problem must be in dire need of help. He tried to convince me that it was sand and that he wanted to see my reaction if i saw a rolled up joint in his possession. i need help. i need to talk to somebody. should i tell the children now, or should i continue to hide this from them. i cannot tell my friends and my family. i feel trapped and sad. please help me.
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