Stress can certainly trigger a lupus flare. You have alot going on with your homelife, and your body is just reacting to the stress you're experiencing.

stress +lupus= flare up,but i think lupus = stress,so yes can relate to all you say,dont think anyone understands lupus unless they have it themselves.

You are not alone! Mine seemsto be the worse in the morning. My daughter thinks I should be able to control it but I feel like I'm having an anxiety attack and get better from being alone and breathing. Does anyone swell up in the face especially after sleeping all night long? I'd love to know how to convey my symptoms to a doctor without sounding crazy.

There are times when I wish that I could get huge blue and purple spots all over my body whenever I get a flare, just so I could look "sick", know what I mean? We have flares, they suck big time, drain every ounce of life out of us, pain in every conceivable (and some very unbelievable) parts of our bodies, we feel like we could lay down and just die and we would be content to have it over with, our brains go numb, it's frustrating that we DONT LOOK SICK. But we are. Very sick.
You're not crazy. I think everyone else is. It took me a long time to educate most of my coworkers, but I still have a few neanderthal thinking ones who don't get it. Oh, well. It's our crazy world.
You are most definitely not alone! My friends keep me going, and the rest of the world can just lump it. It took me a long time to get that attitude. I finally had to put my foot down and take care of myself first.
You take care of yourself! It's a big step, but pays off in the end.
Hugs to ya!

I know how you feel. My family thinks I am crazy sometimes and I have teenagers so they will just come right out and say so. Which just makes me feel crazier. lol Anyway you are not alone I have a hard time myself. Sometimes you might be overreacting to little things but I had to sit my kids and now ex-husband (separated) and explain that it is part of the illness. I take a lot of prednisone everyday because my disease has decided to go into a major flare right now and it is hard. If it gets too much talk to your doctor that is what I had to do. I hope this helps.

xoxoxox
Sherry

You are not alone. I swear I'm a maniac sometimes. I try to realize this and then I just try to relax because Stress causes Lupus to flare up and I'm not trying to hurt. I flip out and yell but I apologize and move on. I do the old count to 10 thing before I speak. Kids will be kids ~ Men will be men ~ Jobs are jobs. I can't change most things nor will I try anymore. It is what it is. We need to just live for the day. Small things just don't matter much anymore. I want to stay happy and alive as long and as much as possible.