I am in complete shock and disbelief! My youngest son Jamal has an adopted half sister, 11 year old Loreal, from his father, my ex. My ex and I were together for 6.5 years from 1999 until 2005. During this time we had his daughter Loreal over to our home countless times for summers and holiday, weekends, etc. When we split in 2005 I only saw Loreal on occasion such as birthdays or Christmas. The last time I saw her was about 7 months ago during a play date with her and her my son's Aunt. She looked normal but a but pale and tired, like she had a cold. I asked her what was wrong and she said she was just tired. I have limited contact with my son's parental family, (father's side) because his father was incarcerated 1 year ago. Anyway, I received a phone call from my son's Aunt this past Wednesday, 3 days ago, that she was taking Loreal to the hospital because after she had her for a weekend visit she was greatly concerned about Loreal's health. Apparently she was very pale, weak, had hair loss, she had beautiful thick curly waist length hair and it was thin and shoulder length, and she thought she had ringworm. Also she had been too sick to go to school for two weeks. Her mother had not taken her to see the Doctor! The Aunt said that the doctors thought that she may have Lupus and they would be running some tests. I asked how long she would be in the hospital and she said probably for a week so I planned on visiting her this weekend. This morning 48 hours after Loreal's admittance to the hospital I get a phone call while I was at my son's school Halloween parade that Loreal suddenly took a turn for the worse and needed an immediate blood transfusion! The doctor's were afraid that she would need to be put on a ventilator but they were optimistic about treating the Lupus with aggressive chemo type drugs. This was at 9:00 am this morning. At 3:30 pm I took my son to my mom's so that I could head to the hospital, and at 4:00 pm I got a phone call that Loreal had passed away! I am in disbelief! How could this happen so quickly? I feel it was negligence on Loreal's mother's part for not catching the symptoms sooner! I always thought Lupus was a treatable and fairly manageable disease with a long life ahead of people who had it. How does this happen? I am baffled, angry, shocked, and grieving! Please any information to help me understand how this could of happened would be appreciated!~
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