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Lung cancer is a cancer of the lungs characterized by the presence of malignant tumours. Most commonly it is bronchogenic carcinoma (about 90%). Lung cancer is one of the most lethal of cancers worldwide, causing up to 3 million deaths annually. Although lung cancer was previously an illness that affected predominately men, the lung cancer rate for women has been...

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How to be the caregiver for my mom...

deleted_user
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My mother was diagnosed a few months ago with Stage 3/4. The tumor is large and in the center of her chest. After 7 rounds of chemo, tests show that chemo is working and the tumor is shrinking. She began another 8 rounds or so. However, she'll never be operable becuase of the location and the fact that the tumor is too close to the lymphnodes. She goes in and out of wanting to fight the cancer and then wanting to quit. It can be so hard to hear her sobbing on the phone about this...I know I'm losing my mother. I just wonder how others who have been the caregiver and how you deal with the emotions of the one you love and your own?
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
I am so sorry and this is a tremendously difficult period. I think these things have to ultimately be her decision.

You can check the types of chemo to minimize side effects- carboplatin is easier than cisplatin for example.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I AM NOT THE CAREGIVER (DON'T HAVE ONE AND LIVE ALONE) BUT AM THE ONE W/ LUNG CANCER. I'M FORTUNATE ENOUGH TO HAVE A VERY HOPEFUL AND OPTIMISTIC ATTITUDE AND TAKE EACH DAY AS IT COMES WITH GRATITUDE.
I AM CURRENTLY OFF TREATMENT FOR A WHILE (RELIEF!) HAVE BEEN THRU 6 ROUNDS OF CHEMO EVERY 3 WEEKS WITH A BREAK OF ABOUT 2 MONTHS UNTIL THE CANCER STARTED GROWING AGAIN. IN EARLY DECEMBER BEGAN RADIATION AND CHEMO COMBINED WHICH ENDED A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO. MY NEXT PET/CT SCAN IS FEB. 27TH AND I SEE MY DOCTOR ON MARCH 27TH. MY PROGNOSIS IS NOT GOOD EITHER AND I'M SURE I'LL HAVE TO HAVE MORE CHEMO...BUT FOR THE NEXT 6 WEEKS OR SO I WILL CHERISH EACH AND EVERY DAY OF FEELING SO GOOD. SURE, I HAVE SIDE EFFECTS BUT IGNORE THEM. I WISH YOUR MOM COULD HANDLE IT BETTER FOR ALL OF YOUR FAMILY, I KNOW IT'S HARD ON EVERYONE. BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOM, ESPECIALLY. HANG IN THERE! HUGS, GINNY
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry I don't have advice as things change almost daily for me. But I do know about the feeling of being incredibly alone in this even though we know we are not alone, people are diagnosed every day. Support is big. If you ever want to talk, let me know. Take care.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I appreciate the support I feel here...if anyone else has some encouraging words, I'd love to know what they are. Mom is doing better this week. A bit more "up" than last, which is good. She even offered to keep my son for a few hours today, which is totally unlike her. I think she realizes the value in that time with him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry that you have to go through all this. Be brave and do not give up. You should offer your mother to the Lord. This would make it easy for you to accept this. If you have some questions regarding cancer and its treatment, you may click the following link: http://doctorfinders.com/oncologist.php
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