Hey everybody I am new to this group tonight... I just kinda wanted to say a few things to get used to this whole support group thing :) I am a classic "woman who loves too much"... I am a speech therapist (go figure), and I always feel the need to "help" the person I am with to overcome their problems and "see the light" through my undying love. I have been with a guy for 3 years; we were even engaged for 10 months and ended up breaking it off only to have a rocky relationship for about 6 more months. Friday night (today is Sunday) is when it finally happened. Of course he was the one who broke it, since I felt as though I would certainly die without him.. he looked at me with the usual cold stare and said "i dont want to be with you anymore". As usual, I cried my eyes out for hours as he sat and watched while saying things like "what can i do to make it better" (which was very weird bc he NEVER wanted to make anything better, and I was like why now??).. I left his house feeling as though I would not survive the next day..but something hit me on the way home. I knew I had to stop this madness or I would suffer for the rest of my life. I am only 24 years old, and I want more than anything to stop doing this NOW. My ex was always emotionally distant from me. We never discussed any real problems.. in fact we never discussed anything more than work, sex, and money really because those were the things that were comfortable to him. And by ALL MEANS I wasn't going to make him uncomfortable in anyway... besides... my love was supposed to change him. HA. Anyway, I have realized now that I have an addiction to love and I become obsessed with men only to end up disappointed because they dont metamorphasize into what I "know they can be". I am here because I know I cannot do it alone. He already sent me a message today telling me that I left some stuff at his house and wondered if I needed it (no compassion whatsoever). I ignored him this time, but I KNOW if I try to do this on my own that I will break and end up either answering him or sending him a message/calling him even though I know that is the last thing in this world I need to do. Thank you all for reading my little story, and I look forward to hearing from all of you! It's so amazing to me to see how many other women struggle with this same problem.. it really already makes me feel so much better just to know that.
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