The other day I was sitting around thinking that I have to learn how to love me before I can have a healthy relationship. When I began to think of things I could alone that would make me feel "happy" I drew a blank. I mean there are things that I like to do, but I feel like these things just kill time and I just happen to enjoy them. Like reading a book, or watching a good movie, shopping, taking a hot bath with a drink in hand (relaxation technique). Writing in my journal (relieves stress and offers reflection of self.) These things are nice but they don't give me the "high' I get when a man displays interest, or takes me on a date, holds my hand, kisses my forehead. I hope I'm clear in what I'm saying. I want to learn to be happy with myself. How do I do that?
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