I know loneliness,,have for many years as an only boy living my first 20 years in the country alone with my parents, but my father later was gone a lot. Most of us could write books no doubt about this subject. I have often described it as the many of you as well as me who live in quiet lives of desperation, and can't find any peace in our wretched lives. I am now 67, and find a few too many who seem to resent we older types, as too negative, and whining. For those who say that, I suspect most have not TRULY endured the huge drain of constant chronic illness that is met with criticism of a constant nature, by those who have no clue as to what real misery and loneliness is. I completely understand all who have written here, and sympathize with you. It is not easy having large periods of a bad life, and definitely some people are just plain luckier than others. So all the platitudes, and resentments some of those so lucky have as answers for the truly lonely desperate people are rude and only show the satanistic cruelty so often used in the workplace today and in the past. They tend to pick on the chronically ill as we can only voice a lot of misery and vent as the only relief we can get out, yet they label us as "whiners", "losers", and " negative" old or young jerks and suggest we get out of chats, or whatever, and just go off and die.
How is it that people can be so cruel? They think is is THEY who have it so bad? What bout those who suffer tragic losses that are worse in so many ways? What about the poor people who have been hammered and rebuked at every turn? What about the chronic sickness that plagues a poor soul every day, or a caretaker watching his child and wife, or husband die a slow miserable death? What about doctors who hate chronic disease patients they cannot cure, and react with disgust or snide remarks about our "inability to cope?" So much of others' reactions to our loneliness is that we simple "feel too sorry for ourselves" and "should quite whining" in "self pity".
Do these people make you as angry and full of hate as me? Or am I wrong to have feelings after constant rebuttals from those who have lucky lives, or perhaps had a quick, but expected loss? There are all kinds of losses in life, but the chronically ill who are abused one way or another may well have the worst loneliness of all due to the long term trials of slow suffering and dying. Many just write us off as "negative whiners" and "losers". They actually get mad at us. Have you experienced this? Do you take the liberty of accusation about people you know little to nothing about? I have a problem with this. So I'm just throwing it out as a huge problem subject. I think it is the healthy and wealthy who use us and love to abuse us who as guilty as sin. What do you think? Are we supposed to take such abuse? Or do we as so many, just withdraw into our shells of rejecton and continue to live quiet lives of desperation?